(srry long story but please help!)
Ok so i have a huge crush on one of my brothers friends and hes really nice,sweet,funny,cute,and smart but idk if he wants to be my friend or more then that because we text and talk on aim and smile at each other when we pass each other in the hall and lately hes been talking to me A lot like when it was my birthday he was the first one to wish me and sign my locker and he got the whole class to sing happy birthday he even bought me a present when he came to my bros/my bday party(my brother and i are twins) and when one of my bros friends put icing on my face he shoved cake all over him and said why did you do that to a girl your so mean and when i threw a water balloon at the guy who put icing on my face as revenge hes like way to go, you have awesome aim and when i was hanging out with one of my brothers friends who is also my friend he stared at us and i think he got a little jelous so he just poped in aand joined us and when everyone else at the party was playing sports except for my friends and i he was just like ill be right back to the guys and he came by us and just stood near me and kept smileing and stareing at me and when i helped him win a game of women hunt hes like omg thank you your the best and he gave me a high five and we rarely talk in school but yesterday hes like hey how are you whats up and today he randomly started a conversation with me for like 10 minutes straight and when i was hanging out with my friends he joined our group and started talking to us and lately ive been noticing him starring at me and idk whats going on so do you think he only wants to be my friend or likes me more then that?Are we friends or is he trying to be more then just that?
Well, the easiest way to tell would be to ask your brother, who is his friend after all and might know. But that's kinda obvious, so something else to think about. A good sign that a guy likes you is if he acts differently with you than he does with other people (and based on your story, I think that he does that). Another thing that you can tell by is how much attention he pays to you when you're around. Like, if you and he are both in a room or at the same place, he'll seem to be looking around so he'll be able to tell where you are (you said he stares at you so maybe).
If he uses your name (If he says ';Hey, _____'; in stead of just ';Hey';) then that means he thinks about you.
If he's making alot of eye contact, that's also usually a good indicator.
And based on everything that you've said, I'm pretty sure that while, yeah, he's trying to be your friend, he probably also has a crush on you. Next step? Ask your brother if he knows anything about it.
Good luck...Are we friends or is he trying to be more then just that?
digs you.,..
answer mine. should i ask this girl if shes comfortabel with me hanging out with her???
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Yes, he likes you more than just friends.
he likes you
He definately likes you :)
Wow, I read questions like this and I wish this sort of stuff happened to me! I have the worst luck with males.
yeah i think he totally likes you!!
seems very much like he likes you.
maybe you should try to get him to say he does
like dont ask him plainly if he does, try to like
get it out of him lol
it really really sounds like he likes you. you definately need to drop subtle hints to him. like if you have an upcoming dance or something, that you want to go with him. or maybe ask him to come over sometime and watch a movie. you should definately make plans with him so you can see if things can go farther than just friends.
I think that you are the one who fallen in love with him lOl
but at all I think he likes u more than that
what a poor gay :P
Sunday, November 21, 2010
My friend's boyfriend seems rather interested in me?
okay. so my friend has this boyfriend that she's had since late summer. I met him last month-ish and saw him just a week ago at our school's dance.
Lately, we've been chatting a lot on Facebook and AIM. He's always started the conversations, and we banter back and forth. In fact, if this guy weren't taken, I would be certain that he had a crush on me.
Also, he's asked me if I like anyone at my school and if I think anyone's cute. And we had this whole conversation about making out and it was minimally awkward.
He's also talked about how my friend/his girl friend ';has been really jealous recently'; and that he couldn't ';imagine how she'd be
if she saw our conversations.'; Also, lately, he's been saying how he can't wait to hang out with me.
And the thing is, he's mighty fine and sweet and funny and artistic basically everything i like in a guy. I'm sort of beginning to like him whole lot. And he said that my friend/his girlfriend never sees the side of him that shows when we talk.
So, what are your thoughts on this? Is he interested? How should I proceed?
But let me get 1 thing straight. I would NEVER go behind my friend's back and do anything romantic/relational with her boyfriend unless they had broken up for another reason that had nothing to do with me.
But anyway. Speak, Y! Answers!My friend's boyfriend seems rather interested in me?
ooh la la. kidding.
well it might be possible...there have been some guys who date a girl to befriend and eventually snag the best friend and it had been their intention all a long. I know this seems like something straight out of daytime soap opera. But if you value your friendship with the girl dating him, no more flirting on your behalf. And if they break up would you really be comfortable dating your friends ex? Would your friend be comfortable with you dating him?
These are things to think about.My friend's boyfriend seems rather interested in me?
he is quite obviously interested in you, but you should proceed with caution. it would be foolish to steal your friends boyfriend, i've seen that and it ain't pretty.
Uhhh.... You're a little slow on the uptake if you think he isn't interested lol
Stop doing this!!!
You say you would never go behind you're friends back but then you say you and her boyfriend flirt alot!!
You sound like a real good friend......
If you were a friend...you would tell your friend...call he over one day to let him im/aim you...so she can shut that boy out...if he's going behind her back...what makes you think he's not gonna do the same to you?
well yea, hes interested alright...i think he is waiting for you to make a move since, apparently, youre not saying anything about your conversations to his girlfriend--your 'friend'--he naturally thinking that youre interested as well. think about what youre doing cause you might end up losing your friend if she finds out you have been flirting with her boyfriend
Lately, we've been chatting a lot on Facebook and AIM. He's always started the conversations, and we banter back and forth. In fact, if this guy weren't taken, I would be certain that he had a crush on me.
Also, he's asked me if I like anyone at my school and if I think anyone's cute. And we had this whole conversation about making out and it was minimally awkward.
He's also talked about how my friend/his girl friend ';has been really jealous recently'; and that he couldn't ';imagine how she'd be
if she saw our conversations.'; Also, lately, he's been saying how he can't wait to hang out with me.
And the thing is, he's mighty fine and sweet and funny and artistic basically everything i like in a guy. I'm sort of beginning to like him whole lot. And he said that my friend/his girlfriend never sees the side of him that shows when we talk.
So, what are your thoughts on this? Is he interested? How should I proceed?
But let me get 1 thing straight. I would NEVER go behind my friend's back and do anything romantic/relational with her boyfriend unless they had broken up for another reason that had nothing to do with me.
But anyway. Speak, Y! Answers!My friend's boyfriend seems rather interested in me?
ooh la la. kidding.
well it might be possible...there have been some guys who date a girl to befriend and eventually snag the best friend and it had been their intention all a long. I know this seems like something straight out of daytime soap opera. But if you value your friendship with the girl dating him, no more flirting on your behalf. And if they break up would you really be comfortable dating your friends ex? Would your friend be comfortable with you dating him?
These are things to think about.My friend's boyfriend seems rather interested in me?
he is quite obviously interested in you, but you should proceed with caution. it would be foolish to steal your friends boyfriend, i've seen that and it ain't pretty.
Uhhh.... You're a little slow on the uptake if you think he isn't interested lol
Stop doing this!!!
You say you would never go behind you're friends back but then you say you and her boyfriend flirt alot!!
You sound like a real good friend......
If you were a friend...you would tell your friend...call he over one day to let him im/aim you...so she can shut that boy out...if he's going behind her back...what makes you think he's not gonna do the same to you?
well yea, hes interested alright...i think he is waiting for you to make a move since, apparently, youre not saying anything about your conversations to his girlfriend--your 'friend'--he naturally thinking that youre interested as well. think about what youre doing cause you might end up losing your friend if she finds out you have been flirting with her boyfriend
I still like her alot even though we never dated but i dont know about her?
im going to start with last school year.
there was this girl who i had a crush on and we became friends and started talking. wed flirt in the halls by bumping into each other, wed be in the back of class just talking, people called me her name, they say we make a good couple, its just alot of things wed do. then i told her something and one of her friends tells me then she ask me if i liked her and me being stupid i said no. but then asked her why she asked and she '; aw dont ask now you said you dont like her.'; in a upset kind of voice so after that things started falling she also told my cousin that she wasnt trying to talk to me like that but gave me her number with ease.. but wed still notice each other in big crowds of people even though we never said anything to each other wed make eye contact and it seemed like the longest time even though it was 5-6 seconds. now fast forward to a couple months ago and my cousin saw her somewhere and heres how the conversation went from what she told me:
cousin: hey (crushes name) whats up with you and (my name)
crush: he acts like he dont know nobody anymore and dont talk to me
crushes friend: whatever (crushes name) you know thats your boo
and she said she smiled after that. but this year at first i wouldnt pay any attention to her id just walk past her and things. but my cousin tells me that my crush had a crush on me too she just didnt tell me because she was shy like me and was waiting on me to ask her out but i never did( i know stupid) but she said she also talked about me alot too. so i talk to her and she acted like she didnt want to talk. then last month i find out she was talking to somebody else bvut im not sure if theyre still talking though. so that was that. but i think i need fix things with her and there this party im going to next week and i have to have a date and i was thinking about asking her but i dont know how she feels about me anymore. i still think about her. shes everything i look for in a girl and more. i still think about her alot. but im not popular people just kinda know who i am and shes real popular. what should i do and if youre a girl how do you think she feels about me now?I still like her alot even though we never dated but i dont know about her?
Well first start talking to her in a slow way like in class by asking a question...If you feal up to it, explain to her exactly what happened a year ago .Then just ask her if she was going to that party, if she sais yes then, ask if she had someone to go with, if she sais no then ask her if she would want to go with you.. She probably still feals alittle for you..
Dont give up, girls hate that.. If she liked you then, why wouldnt she accept..
go for it, the worst that can happen is the answer is NO (dought it)
I still like her alot even though we never dated but i dont know about her?
Tell her how you feel A.S.A.P!! Do it NOW!!! Or else she might move on for good.
i really hope you learn a valuable lesson from this!
DONT SAY STUPID THINGS! WHY WOULD YOU SAY NO!!!?
WERE YOU OUT OF YOUR MIND? YOU RUINED IT FOR HER!
but its okay, because it sounds like now you've slightly broken her heart, made her unsure about where you two stand, but she seems to still want you. you make eye contact, and that means alot more than it sounds like..
and plus, if YOU, the jerk that broke her heart(sorry! :) ) STILL THINKS ABOUT HER%26lt; OBVIOUSLY SHE DOES TOO!
quickly, run, right now, and ask her if she'll be your date to the party.
tell her everything, that you did like her back then, you still do.
it'll make her LIFE! trust me, it'll be everything shes ever wanted to hear.
!! GO!!!
she's going to move on! you have to tell her how you feel. tell her that you were nervous, and didn't think she would like you back so you said no, and tell her SORRY, because that obviously hurt her if she liked you. she is going to move on if she thinks you don't like her.
there was this girl who i had a crush on and we became friends and started talking. wed flirt in the halls by bumping into each other, wed be in the back of class just talking, people called me her name, they say we make a good couple, its just alot of things wed do. then i told her something and one of her friends tells me then she ask me if i liked her and me being stupid i said no. but then asked her why she asked and she '; aw dont ask now you said you dont like her.'; in a upset kind of voice so after that things started falling she also told my cousin that she wasnt trying to talk to me like that but gave me her number with ease.. but wed still notice each other in big crowds of people even though we never said anything to each other wed make eye contact and it seemed like the longest time even though it was 5-6 seconds. now fast forward to a couple months ago and my cousin saw her somewhere and heres how the conversation went from what she told me:
cousin: hey (crushes name) whats up with you and (my name)
crush: he acts like he dont know nobody anymore and dont talk to me
crushes friend: whatever (crushes name) you know thats your boo
and she said she smiled after that. but this year at first i wouldnt pay any attention to her id just walk past her and things. but my cousin tells me that my crush had a crush on me too she just didnt tell me because she was shy like me and was waiting on me to ask her out but i never did( i know stupid) but she said she also talked about me alot too. so i talk to her and she acted like she didnt want to talk. then last month i find out she was talking to somebody else bvut im not sure if theyre still talking though. so that was that. but i think i need fix things with her and there this party im going to next week and i have to have a date and i was thinking about asking her but i dont know how she feels about me anymore. i still think about her. shes everything i look for in a girl and more. i still think about her alot. but im not popular people just kinda know who i am and shes real popular. what should i do and if youre a girl how do you think she feels about me now?I still like her alot even though we never dated but i dont know about her?
Well first start talking to her in a slow way like in class by asking a question...If you feal up to it, explain to her exactly what happened a year ago .Then just ask her if she was going to that party, if she sais yes then, ask if she had someone to go with, if she sais no then ask her if she would want to go with you.. She probably still feals alittle for you..
Dont give up, girls hate that.. If she liked you then, why wouldnt she accept..
go for it, the worst that can happen is the answer is NO (dought it)
I still like her alot even though we never dated but i dont know about her?
Tell her how you feel A.S.A.P!! Do it NOW!!! Or else she might move on for good.
i really hope you learn a valuable lesson from this!
DONT SAY STUPID THINGS! WHY WOULD YOU SAY NO!!!?
WERE YOU OUT OF YOUR MIND? YOU RUINED IT FOR HER!
but its okay, because it sounds like now you've slightly broken her heart, made her unsure about where you two stand, but she seems to still want you. you make eye contact, and that means alot more than it sounds like..
and plus, if YOU, the jerk that broke her heart(sorry! :) ) STILL THINKS ABOUT HER%26lt; OBVIOUSLY SHE DOES TOO!
quickly, run, right now, and ask her if she'll be your date to the party.
tell her everything, that you did like her back then, you still do.
it'll make her LIFE! trust me, it'll be everything shes ever wanted to hear.
!! GO!!!
she's going to move on! you have to tell her how you feel. tell her that you were nervous, and didn't think she would like you back so you said no, and tell her SORRY, because that obviously hurt her if she liked you. she is going to move on if she thinks you don't like her.
How can i get him to like me?
i turned 15 this year, and i never had a 'real' boyfriend. just like hook ups and stuff. but i actually really do like this one boy. we've never 'hooked up' or anything. hes one grade ahead of me. and i sat next to him in algebra all of 2nd semester. at first we just kinda talked like friends would and just kinda laugh at whatever. but then as the year was getting closer to the end (like two months before) i started liking him more and more. i knew he had recently broken up with his girl friend because she had cheated on him at a party. but anyways, he would always talk to me and sometimes when i was walking down to algebra he would come up from behinde me and call me a new nick name everyday. i thought it was cute. then things were getting better and better. like he would start more conversations and i would always ask him to throw away my papers for me and he would say 'your such a lazy a$$' and smile really cute at me. and i liked it alot. then another time me and him were talking the whole entire class time and he would like grab my wrist and say 'you have such tiny wrists!' and i would grab his and say 'you have such big wrists!' and these girls in front of me and him would always hit eachother, so one day out of no where he lightly hit me and smiled. but then i think i started liking him too much because i would purposly walk really slow to let him catch up to me, and it worked. ha. then like we started texting all the time and he would send me cute smileys. but then he met this other girl. and he started talking to her more than me, and this boy wouldnt talk to me as much anymore. but now, he dropped this other girl because he found even another girl. i asked him if he liked her, and he always says no. but he knows i have a crush on him so i think sometimes he just says that to be nice. and like when i see this boy everyday in the gym he doesnt usually smile at me anymore, and i miss it alot. how can i get him back? please help! i answer your questions with the very BEST i possibly can!How can i get him to like me?
Id say you tried. You got close then...yeah. But you cant make him like you. There are other fish in the sea (:
Id say you tried. You got close then...yeah. But you cant make him like you. There are other fish in the sea (:
Girls what would you think about this..? ?
=) I know you dont know me. but I cant help myself any longer. so here it is..
When I first saw you back in March 2002 in speech class, I was new to the school and something about you that I couldnt explain gave me butterflies all over my stomach.. I remember you saw me staring at you and we locked eyes for a few long seconds. It was then, that I knew that you were special. or atleast I thought you were. I then dropped the class because i was too behind and wasnt going to get the credit either way.
Then the next yr. I had you for P.E. class, I believe it was in 4th period. Around the time when they had just build the new GYM. I remember being all stupid and trying to impress you, while you never noticed..
Then in a party in Las Milpas, I think it was a 15nera in sept. I went up to you, after one of my friends told me to go for it, and face my fears. I was shaking in fear of rejection but still decided to gamble and give it a try, just to be let down. I remember seeing you and thinking to myself (while I tried to make a conversation with you. Which only lasted around 30sec.) ';Men, I really am stinking this'; I felt you were uncomfortable with my presence. and you were waiting for your ride dress in a white shirt.
Then when I asked you for your # (which I shouldve never done, because in my opinion that is a foolish way to go for someone when you dont know them) and you told me you already had a boyfriend.. it didnt brake my heart, because I alreardy knew you were going out with Eddy, But I did feel stupid after it..
so after that I decided, well maybe she just isnt for me.. I gave up my high hopes.. and then later I remember you once telling me (as I was sitting on the floor next to the old gym. inside the doors near where the busses stop) and you telling me '; I saw you at Champs'; I was like WOW. I knew I shouldve started a conversation, but I didnt.
Then one day when I saw you crying outside after school(as my bus was leaving), I felt hurt and wished I could hold you tight and stop your tears.
Now that I think about it, it was funny how i acted those 2 yrs at Valley View. I had no style, starting with my hair, at the time. and my friends werent the best of choices.some of them.. I Understood why, someone as beautiful and nice as you wouldnt pay attention to someone like me.. lol.. oh yeah, I had a crush on you for quite some time, and I believe I still do, because you havent changed a bit.
I just hope, I didnt get you mad about this..Im not asking for anything, I just wanted to let my heart speak, after all thats one of the reasons why I requested you as a friend. Hopefully you dont get mad and hate me.. or even worse think im a stocker, becuase Im not.. I just had a crush on you..and never got over it..
Girls what would you think about this..? ?
Aww, I read this and was like wow; your so sweet and if this chick can't realize it..shes not worth your time.
Good Luck,
Megann.
Girls what would you think about this..? ?
Nice.
what's ur question???? if u're asking what we thought of this as a letter to ur girl well, u never told us anything abt the girl...but if she's sweet...i think she'll like it, but what if she still has a boyfriend...i'm not sure what to tell u as i'm not sure what u really want...
Aw! That's really sweet! She should read this you know!
A) Fix up the typos and poor grammar, and that sounds pretty cool. Honest, self reflective and intelligent.
B) ';Hopefully you dont get mad and hate me.. or even worse think im a stocker, becuase Im not.. I just had a crush on you..and never got over it..'; What's a stocker? Do you mean 'stalker', or is it something else? Like a supermarket shelf stocker?
Sucks for you hahahahahahaha!!!!!
When I first saw you back in March 2002 in speech class, I was new to the school and something about you that I couldnt explain gave me butterflies all over my stomach.. I remember you saw me staring at you and we locked eyes for a few long seconds. It was then, that I knew that you were special. or atleast I thought you were. I then dropped the class because i was too behind and wasnt going to get the credit either way.
Then the next yr. I had you for P.E. class, I believe it was in 4th period. Around the time when they had just build the new GYM. I remember being all stupid and trying to impress you, while you never noticed..
Then in a party in Las Milpas, I think it was a 15nera in sept. I went up to you, after one of my friends told me to go for it, and face my fears. I was shaking in fear of rejection but still decided to gamble and give it a try, just to be let down. I remember seeing you and thinking to myself (while I tried to make a conversation with you. Which only lasted around 30sec.) ';Men, I really am stinking this'; I felt you were uncomfortable with my presence. and you were waiting for your ride dress in a white shirt.
Then when I asked you for your # (which I shouldve never done, because in my opinion that is a foolish way to go for someone when you dont know them) and you told me you already had a boyfriend.. it didnt brake my heart, because I alreardy knew you were going out with Eddy, But I did feel stupid after it..
so after that I decided, well maybe she just isnt for me.. I gave up my high hopes.. and then later I remember you once telling me (as I was sitting on the floor next to the old gym. inside the doors near where the busses stop) and you telling me '; I saw you at Champs'; I was like WOW. I knew I shouldve started a conversation, but I didnt.
Then one day when I saw you crying outside after school(as my bus was leaving), I felt hurt and wished I could hold you tight and stop your tears.
Now that I think about it, it was funny how i acted those 2 yrs at Valley View. I had no style, starting with my hair, at the time. and my friends werent the best of choices.some of them.. I Understood why, someone as beautiful and nice as you wouldnt pay attention to someone like me.. lol.. oh yeah, I had a crush on you for quite some time, and I believe I still do, because you havent changed a bit.
I just hope, I didnt get you mad about this..Im not asking for anything, I just wanted to let my heart speak, after all thats one of the reasons why I requested you as a friend. Hopefully you dont get mad and hate me.. or even worse think im a stocker, becuase Im not.. I just had a crush on you..and never got over it..
Girls what would you think about this..? ?
Aww, I read this and was like wow; your so sweet and if this chick can't realize it..shes not worth your time.
Good Luck,
Megann.
Girls what would you think about this..? ?
Nice.
what's ur question???? if u're asking what we thought of this as a letter to ur girl well, u never told us anything abt the girl...but if she's sweet...i think she'll like it, but what if she still has a boyfriend...i'm not sure what to tell u as i'm not sure what u really want...
Aw! That's really sweet! She should read this you know!
A) Fix up the typos and poor grammar, and that sounds pretty cool. Honest, self reflective and intelligent.
B) ';Hopefully you dont get mad and hate me.. or even worse think im a stocker, becuase Im not.. I just had a crush on you..and never got over it..'; What's a stocker? Do you mean 'stalker', or is it something else? Like a supermarket shelf stocker?
Sucks for you hahahahahahaha!!!!!
Help Getting a girl back (Please Help Me!)?
Bear with me on this one, I'm gonna try to sum up the whole story as quick as I can. Please give me any advice you have.
I'm sixteen, I'm a usually quiet until you get to know me. The girl is much more quiet until you get to know her. Here's the story:
Halloween I'm hanging out with my friend, he invites this girl. I start to like her. After hanging out several more times between that night and Mid-January, we had amazing conversations every time and I really only paid attention to her. We both fall for each other and begin to date. Everything goes great for two months, I'm happier then ever, she was happy too. And then all of the sudde, just like that, she says she just wants to be friends. I'm miserable, and feel like the guy from ';500 Days of Summer'; for the next month. Note that I do some stuff that I'm not supposed to do like try and persuade her back into the realationship, and I acted depressed all the time (which I really was, but I guess your not supposed to show that to her).
So here's the reasons she gave for breaking up with me (She made this decision in 3 days): We could never keep a conversation going, she felt like she couldn't open up to me, we weren't good enough friends to start a relationship, we weren't compatible, and her feelings have faded.
At first I just disagreed with her and told her that. But after thinking about it, I realized why she made her decision. I wish she gave it more time, or at least tried to fix the problem, but she is real shy and I don't think she really knew how to address it. Anyway, after thinking about it for a month, I realized that it was all my fault, because I really didn't talk to her as much as I did when we were just friends. I got lazy and just didn't care, I was happy to be with her and didn't feel the need to talk, because I just liked being around her. I did pay her lots of attention and it reallly wasn't THAT bad, but I understand why she did it. And a lot of times, I had to argue with my parents to hang with her so when we did hang, that was on my mind for awhile, and I didn't want her to feel bad so I didn't bring it up (note that my parents loved her, they just were mad that I was making plans without asking them first)
So yeah, we broke up cuz I was lazy, it wasn't the real me. We had amzing conversations before we started going out, and then when we began to date, I just got lazy and didn't try to talk to her as much as I should've.
Now I believe that if she can see the real me again, feelings can come back. Ya know, If I just become the guy she fell in love with, then things can work again.
I just need help on getting there, she said that she really does want to be friends, but she doesn't make an effort, and kinda avoids me in the hallway and stuff (she is a really shy person). She approached me once (last week), but that was the only time, the rest of the time I was the one who started talking.
I need help on getting back into a friendship, getting her to acknowledge me and stuff, and any other help. If you think I'm wasting my time, or am taking the wrong approach to all of this stuff, please tell me. I want honest answers, so please just don't just try and make me feel good.
So yeah, I just want advice on being able to become friends with her again. And then any other advice to take from there. Also, do you think it's possible that feelings can come back after the are lost.
I really do love this girl, it's not just a silly crush, I've had plenty before, and this is way different. So please, whatever help you can give me.Help Getting a girl back (Please Help Me!)?
yah kno. honestly...comeing from a girls pointt of vieww. those reasons she gave wer legit.. but sometimes the girls scared int eh relationship too. scared shes not perviding things that you want.. maybe if you startto talk to her..gradually..slowly at first ..and try not to scare her at the beginigng.. thenn whgenn u guys BOTH feel comfortable, you start to talk about old times and maybe itll spark something thatt wil helpp get this relationship going again.
i meann im only 15 and this has happened to me like... 3 times lol.
hopee i hellppedd.(:Help Getting a girl back (Please Help Me!)?
Well dear, I will say you really must like her a lot if you always have her on your mind and argue with your parents to see her. If your really falling for you, you need to open up to her and tell her. You never know it can be too late if you bottle up your feelings. I know you say your shy, but you need to break your shell from that and make the effort to prove her wrong. She is probably avoiding you cause you might of gave her the guilt trip or that she didn't want to hurt you. If you didn't talk much, how is that a relationship? The key point for relationships are the #1 key is communication. If you don't have that between you two, it isn't going to last much. You need to open up to her and talk to her. She will do the same too and thats the best way you can get her back. Like they say, whats meant to be will always find its way. Let life take control of its course and don't try rushing your life. My best advice I can give to you is listen to your gut feeling inside, what you think it is right and from there you will know the right thing what to do. I wish the best of luck with you and your girl.
I'm sixteen, I'm a usually quiet until you get to know me. The girl is much more quiet until you get to know her. Here's the story:
Halloween I'm hanging out with my friend, he invites this girl. I start to like her. After hanging out several more times between that night and Mid-January, we had amazing conversations every time and I really only paid attention to her. We both fall for each other and begin to date. Everything goes great for two months, I'm happier then ever, she was happy too. And then all of the sudde, just like that, she says she just wants to be friends. I'm miserable, and feel like the guy from ';500 Days of Summer'; for the next month. Note that I do some stuff that I'm not supposed to do like try and persuade her back into the realationship, and I acted depressed all the time (which I really was, but I guess your not supposed to show that to her).
So here's the reasons she gave for breaking up with me (She made this decision in 3 days): We could never keep a conversation going, she felt like she couldn't open up to me, we weren't good enough friends to start a relationship, we weren't compatible, and her feelings have faded.
At first I just disagreed with her and told her that. But after thinking about it, I realized why she made her decision. I wish she gave it more time, or at least tried to fix the problem, but she is real shy and I don't think she really knew how to address it. Anyway, after thinking about it for a month, I realized that it was all my fault, because I really didn't talk to her as much as I did when we were just friends. I got lazy and just didn't care, I was happy to be with her and didn't feel the need to talk, because I just liked being around her. I did pay her lots of attention and it reallly wasn't THAT bad, but I understand why she did it. And a lot of times, I had to argue with my parents to hang with her so when we did hang, that was on my mind for awhile, and I didn't want her to feel bad so I didn't bring it up (note that my parents loved her, they just were mad that I was making plans without asking them first)
So yeah, we broke up cuz I was lazy, it wasn't the real me. We had amzing conversations before we started going out, and then when we began to date, I just got lazy and didn't try to talk to her as much as I should've.
Now I believe that if she can see the real me again, feelings can come back. Ya know, If I just become the guy she fell in love with, then things can work again.
I just need help on getting there, she said that she really does want to be friends, but she doesn't make an effort, and kinda avoids me in the hallway and stuff (she is a really shy person). She approached me once (last week), but that was the only time, the rest of the time I was the one who started talking.
I need help on getting back into a friendship, getting her to acknowledge me and stuff, and any other help. If you think I'm wasting my time, or am taking the wrong approach to all of this stuff, please tell me. I want honest answers, so please just don't just try and make me feel good.
So yeah, I just want advice on being able to become friends with her again. And then any other advice to take from there. Also, do you think it's possible that feelings can come back after the are lost.
I really do love this girl, it's not just a silly crush, I've had plenty before, and this is way different. So please, whatever help you can give me.Help Getting a girl back (Please Help Me!)?
yah kno. honestly...comeing from a girls pointt of vieww. those reasons she gave wer legit.. but sometimes the girls scared int eh relationship too. scared shes not perviding things that you want.. maybe if you startto talk to her..gradually..slowly at first ..and try not to scare her at the beginigng.. thenn whgenn u guys BOTH feel comfortable, you start to talk about old times and maybe itll spark something thatt wil helpp get this relationship going again.
i meann im only 15 and this has happened to me like... 3 times lol.
hopee i hellppedd.(:Help Getting a girl back (Please Help Me!)?
Well dear, I will say you really must like her a lot if you always have her on your mind and argue with your parents to see her. If your really falling for you, you need to open up to her and tell her. You never know it can be too late if you bottle up your feelings. I know you say your shy, but you need to break your shell from that and make the effort to prove her wrong. She is probably avoiding you cause you might of gave her the guilt trip or that she didn't want to hurt you. If you didn't talk much, how is that a relationship? The key point for relationships are the #1 key is communication. If you don't have that between you two, it isn't going to last much. You need to open up to her and talk to her. She will do the same too and thats the best way you can get her back. Like they say, whats meant to be will always find its way. Let life take control of its course and don't try rushing your life. My best advice I can give to you is listen to your gut feeling inside, what you think it is right and from there you will know the right thing what to do. I wish the best of luck with you and your girl.
Is there any possibiltity that he likes me back? <3?
Okay, so before i start, just need to let ya know; that YES i am a crazed young teenage girl, so if you cant handle my terrible spelling, or spaziness, or stupidness, then leave, NOW. ;D
Okay, so here's the situation:
oh, and by the way, thiis song basically describes how i feel. :D
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVzFyT0YQ鈥?/a>
Anywho, I REALLY really like this one dude.
He has the most amazing blue eyes, and kewlish brown hair.
So, he and i both have a few classes together, we have science and block (block is a mixture of language arts and social studies; therefore its two periods.) Oh, and we ride the same bus.
So, in block, he sits right behind me, and sometimes ill look back and smile at him, And one time, cuz i read this online, lol, it was a sorta ';test'; to see if hes actually starring at you. So, i looked at him, then at the clock, and i was pretty certain that he didnt look at me, but then i saw him loooking at me and continuing to glance at the clock. YAY!
And in block, if he or i get up to get like a tissue or something, the person sitting at the desk will always stare at the person walking back. :)
So, in science, i ALWAYS flirt with him, lmfao.
I was being all crazy/hyper and i told him, and my friend, that they had gotten married, and had a Madonna ganster baby, and so then, my crush got a piece of paper, and signed it, lol making it an actual divorce paper. ;D
Then, later i was teasing him about it in science, and my friend, told me i was married to John Mayer, the singer, cuz we hve the same last name. Teehee, then my crush told me i was maarried to these two dudes i barely know! we were all joking, fyi. After that, we were still in science, and my crush and i were dicussing how we rode the same bus, and so we realized we had the same stop, and so he just started randomly asking me where i live, lol, and turns out, he lives pretty close by to me. :))))
And, then we started talking about last names, and he was all joking around, and he finally guessed my last name.
Then, on the bus, he sat behind me and i was sitting alone in the seat in front of him and his friend, and so, like 2 mins into the ride, i turned around and started talking to him.
Here's sorta what our convo went like
Me: hey, lol i wasnt aware that i was married to 3 guys!
Him: yeah, youre married to every man on this planet, except for me.
Me: Well, why arent i married to you?
( i dont remember what he said after that, but it wasnt a diss or anything, i dont remember.)
As our conversation continued, we started talking about last names, and siblings, and he mentioned he had an older sister, who is apparently always out with her boyfriend, and yeah...then we were talking about where we both live, and we both got to joke about stalking each other.
Then, he figured out that my acctual naame is Madeleine, and so now hes gonna call mee that, and i asked him what his middle name is, and so now ima call him by his middle name.
And yeah, %26lt;3
lmfao, THANKS A BILLION for reading all thhat!!!
I'm so grateful, thanks, if you add a link to one of your quuestions, ill try my hardest to answer it!!
;]Is there any possibiltity that he likes me back? %26lt;3?
You have many possibilities with him because was was watching you, i think he likes you, my advice take it slow good luckIs there any possibiltity that he likes me back? %26lt;3?
I think he might (: just see if he wants to hang out one day after school! :)
and just see how that goes, or talk to him still and flirt back with him to show him that your interested :)
good luck! :D
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I personally think he likes you as just a friend... FOR NOW AT LEAST%26lt;3
But you still have a chancee stay his friend and he might like you eventually....
Good Luck
First of all, gotta say, if that is really you in that profile pic you are very cute! Secondly, yeah, it seems like it's a pretty good possibility that he likes you back, he was definitely flirting. Just play it cool and he'll probably ask you out!
ask him out already!
awwww, thats adorable girl (:
im very certain he likes you! but if he doesnt, hes just one major flirt. i think you two have something though (:
just be friends for a while longer to make sure youre certain he likes you, and you like him. then ask him how he feels about being more than friends!
goodluckk! (:(:(:
umm yeah there PRETTY good chnace eh lieks you and omg that was long but fun to read:]
Awh sounds to me like he is starting to like you!
Watch out for all the joking around though, this may only turn into a joking friendship and that's it.
But it sounds to me like he likes you. Like when he sat behind you on the bus (he wanted to talk to you and get to know you better) and if he's looking at you in class it's a good sign.
:D
I think you two should hang out sometime after school or on the weekend and flirt a lot.. or just talk! and get to know each other and you never know, he might spill his feelings for you (;
Okay, so here's the situation:
oh, and by the way, thiis song basically describes how i feel. :D
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVzFyT0YQ鈥?/a>
Anywho, I REALLY really like this one dude.
He has the most amazing blue eyes, and kewlish brown hair.
So, he and i both have a few classes together, we have science and block (block is a mixture of language arts and social studies; therefore its two periods.) Oh, and we ride the same bus.
So, in block, he sits right behind me, and sometimes ill look back and smile at him, And one time, cuz i read this online, lol, it was a sorta ';test'; to see if hes actually starring at you. So, i looked at him, then at the clock, and i was pretty certain that he didnt look at me, but then i saw him loooking at me and continuing to glance at the clock. YAY!
And in block, if he or i get up to get like a tissue or something, the person sitting at the desk will always stare at the person walking back. :)
So, in science, i ALWAYS flirt with him, lmfao.
I was being all crazy/hyper and i told him, and my friend, that they had gotten married, and had a Madonna ganster baby, and so then, my crush got a piece of paper, and signed it, lol making it an actual divorce paper. ;D
Then, later i was teasing him about it in science, and my friend, told me i was married to John Mayer, the singer, cuz we hve the same last name. Teehee, then my crush told me i was maarried to these two dudes i barely know! we were all joking, fyi. After that, we were still in science, and my crush and i were dicussing how we rode the same bus, and so we realized we had the same stop, and so he just started randomly asking me where i live, lol, and turns out, he lives pretty close by to me. :))))
And, then we started talking about last names, and he was all joking around, and he finally guessed my last name.
Then, on the bus, he sat behind me and i was sitting alone in the seat in front of him and his friend, and so, like 2 mins into the ride, i turned around and started talking to him.
Here's sorta what our convo went like
Me: hey, lol i wasnt aware that i was married to 3 guys!
Him: yeah, youre married to every man on this planet, except for me.
Me: Well, why arent i married to you?
( i dont remember what he said after that, but it wasnt a diss or anything, i dont remember.)
As our conversation continued, we started talking about last names, and siblings, and he mentioned he had an older sister, who is apparently always out with her boyfriend, and yeah...then we were talking about where we both live, and we both got to joke about stalking each other.
Then, he figured out that my acctual naame is Madeleine, and so now hes gonna call mee that, and i asked him what his middle name is, and so now ima call him by his middle name.
And yeah, %26lt;3
lmfao, THANKS A BILLION for reading all thhat!!!
I'm so grateful, thanks, if you add a link to one of your quuestions, ill try my hardest to answer it!!
;]Is there any possibiltity that he likes me back? %26lt;3?
You have many possibilities with him because was was watching you, i think he likes you, my advice take it slow good luckIs there any possibiltity that he likes me back? %26lt;3?
I think he might (: just see if he wants to hang out one day after school! :)
and just see how that goes, or talk to him still and flirt back with him to show him that your interested :)
good luck! :D
answer mine?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
I personally think he likes you as just a friend... FOR NOW AT LEAST%26lt;3
But you still have a chancee stay his friend and he might like you eventually....
Good Luck
First of all, gotta say, if that is really you in that profile pic you are very cute! Secondly, yeah, it seems like it's a pretty good possibility that he likes you back, he was definitely flirting. Just play it cool and he'll probably ask you out!
ask him out already!
awwww, thats adorable girl (:
im very certain he likes you! but if he doesnt, hes just one major flirt. i think you two have something though (:
just be friends for a while longer to make sure youre certain he likes you, and you like him. then ask him how he feels about being more than friends!
goodluckk! (:(:(:
umm yeah there PRETTY good chnace eh lieks you and omg that was long but fun to read:]
Awh sounds to me like he is starting to like you!
Watch out for all the joking around though, this may only turn into a joking friendship and that's it.
But it sounds to me like he likes you. Like when he sat behind you on the bus (he wanted to talk to you and get to know you better) and if he's looking at you in class it's a good sign.
:D
I think you two should hang out sometime after school or on the weekend and flirt a lot.. or just talk! and get to know each other and you never know, he might spill his feelings for you (;
Guy troubles? Please help...? :( (REALLY long, just to warn you all.)?
So....Does it seem like he likes me? :/?
Okay, so before i start, just need to let ya know; that YES i am a crazed young teenage girl, so if you cant handle my terrible spelling, or spaziness, or stupidness, then leave, NOW. ;D
Okay, so here's the situation:
oh, and by the way, thiis song basically describes how i feel. :D
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVzFyT0YQ鈥?/a>
Anywho, I REALLY really like this one dude.
He has the most amazing blue eyes, and kewlish brown hair.
So, he and i both have a few classes together, we have science and block (block is a mixture of language arts and social studies; therefore its two periods.) Oh, and we ride the same bus.
So, in block, he sits right behind me, and sometimes ill look back and smile at him, And one time, cuz i read this online, lol, it was a sorta ';test'; to see if hes actually starring at you. So, i looked at him, then at the clock, and i was pretty certain that he didnt look at me, but then i saw him loooking at me and continuing to glance at the clock. YAY!
And in block, if he or i get up to get like a tissue or something, the person sitting at the desk will always stare at the person walking back. :)
So, in science, i ALWAYS flirt with him, lmfao.
I was being all crazy/hyper and i told him, and my friend, that they had gotten married, and had a Madonna ganster baby, and so then, my crush got a piece of paper, and signed it, lol making it an actual divorce paper. ;D
Then, later i was teasing him about it in science, and my friend, told me i was married to John Mayer, the singer, cuz we hve the same last name. Teehee, then my crush told me i was maarried to these two dudes i barely know! we were all joking, fyi. After that, we were still in science, and my crush and i were dicussing how we rode the same bus, and so we realized we had the same stop, and so he just started randomly asking me where i live, lol, and turns out, he lives pretty close by to me. :))))
And, then we started talking about last names, and he was all joking around, and he finally guessed my last name.
Then, on the bus, he sat behind me and i was sitting alone in the seat in front of him and his friend, and so, like 2 mins into the ride, i turned around and started talking to him.
Here's sorta what our convo went like
Me: hey, lol i wasnt aware that i was married to 3 guys!
Him: yeah, youre married to every man on this planet, except for me.
Me: Well, why arent i married to you?
( i dont remember what he said after that, but it wasnt a diss or anything, i dont remember.)
As our conversation continued, we started talking about last names, and siblings, and he mentioned he had an older sister, who is apparently always out with her boyfriend, and yeah...then we were talking about where we both live, and we both got to joke about stalking each other.
Then, he figured out that my acctual naame is Madeleine, and so now hes gonna call mee that, and i asked him what his middle name is, and so now ima call him by his middle name.
And yeah, %26lt;3
lmfao, THANKS A BILLION for reading all thhat!!!
I'm so grateful, thanks, if you add a link to one of your quuestions, ill try my hardest to answer it!!
;]
oh, and by the way, today, my friend...called him randomly...and started talkign about me...she asked him if he likes me...and he responded ';i dont know what to say.'; and yeah, so...idk if he secretly likes me, or thinks im like scary now...help!!!Guy troubles? Please help...? :( (REALLY long, just to warn you all.)?
You sound amusing! Go for him, tell him. When you guys are talking and laughing just throw out there that you like him.
Answer mine: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Guy troubles? Please help...? :( (REALLY long, just to warn you all.)?
YES!!! At first I was thinking ehh he could, but I'm pretty sure he does after I read your convo thingy. Thats so cute girly!! You should keep flirty %26amp; go for it!!
Okay after getting 3 answers that saids go for it , i would be pissed if i was you.so what am i going to do? im going to give you a good answer.based on the info you gave me i cant really tell if he likes you but i can tell you what he will do if he likes you , a common sign that he likes you will be that he starts talking to you first.and most girls dont get that but unless a guy and a girl are good friends. we wont start talking to her first. im not talking about seeing a girl in the lunch line and saying ';hey, what are they serving';im talking about like texting a girl. so a good way to tell if a guy likes you is to get his number and if he textes you first , then hes definitely interested . you might say omg how am i going to get his number but you guys are in 3 classes . you can find a way . just one day when you guys are joking say ';hey , i dont get this homework, wanna talk about it tonight'; even if a girl i wasnt interested in asked me that , id be like ';okay cool i dont mind , sounds fun i like meeting new people'; from what you wrote he only said one thing.towards the end. you took a long time to wrote this so you obviously need help and i gave you a good response i hope. so have fun reading and goodluck.if you have any more questions , add me as a contact then post it and ill answer( i look at all my contacts questions)only log on days i have school off lol
go for it
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tl;dr
Just go for it, whats the worst that can happen?
Answer mine?
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Okay, so before i start, just need to let ya know; that YES i am a crazed young teenage girl, so if you cant handle my terrible spelling, or spaziness, or stupidness, then leave, NOW. ;D
Okay, so here's the situation:
oh, and by the way, thiis song basically describes how i feel. :D
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVzFyT0YQ鈥?/a>
Anywho, I REALLY really like this one dude.
He has the most amazing blue eyes, and kewlish brown hair.
So, he and i both have a few classes together, we have science and block (block is a mixture of language arts and social studies; therefore its two periods.) Oh, and we ride the same bus.
So, in block, he sits right behind me, and sometimes ill look back and smile at him, And one time, cuz i read this online, lol, it was a sorta ';test'; to see if hes actually starring at you. So, i looked at him, then at the clock, and i was pretty certain that he didnt look at me, but then i saw him loooking at me and continuing to glance at the clock. YAY!
And in block, if he or i get up to get like a tissue or something, the person sitting at the desk will always stare at the person walking back. :)
So, in science, i ALWAYS flirt with him, lmfao.
I was being all crazy/hyper and i told him, and my friend, that they had gotten married, and had a Madonna ganster baby, and so then, my crush got a piece of paper, and signed it, lol making it an actual divorce paper. ;D
Then, later i was teasing him about it in science, and my friend, told me i was married to John Mayer, the singer, cuz we hve the same last name. Teehee, then my crush told me i was maarried to these two dudes i barely know! we were all joking, fyi. After that, we were still in science, and my crush and i were dicussing how we rode the same bus, and so we realized we had the same stop, and so he just started randomly asking me where i live, lol, and turns out, he lives pretty close by to me. :))))
And, then we started talking about last names, and he was all joking around, and he finally guessed my last name.
Then, on the bus, he sat behind me and i was sitting alone in the seat in front of him and his friend, and so, like 2 mins into the ride, i turned around and started talking to him.
Here's sorta what our convo went like
Me: hey, lol i wasnt aware that i was married to 3 guys!
Him: yeah, youre married to every man on this planet, except for me.
Me: Well, why arent i married to you?
( i dont remember what he said after that, but it wasnt a diss or anything, i dont remember.)
As our conversation continued, we started talking about last names, and siblings, and he mentioned he had an older sister, who is apparently always out with her boyfriend, and yeah...then we were talking about where we both live, and we both got to joke about stalking each other.
Then, he figured out that my acctual naame is Madeleine, and so now hes gonna call mee that, and i asked him what his middle name is, and so now ima call him by his middle name.
And yeah, %26lt;3
lmfao, THANKS A BILLION for reading all thhat!!!
I'm so grateful, thanks, if you add a link to one of your quuestions, ill try my hardest to answer it!!
;]
oh, and by the way, today, my friend...called him randomly...and started talkign about me...she asked him if he likes me...and he responded ';i dont know what to say.'; and yeah, so...idk if he secretly likes me, or thinks im like scary now...help!!!Guy troubles? Please help...? :( (REALLY long, just to warn you all.)?
You sound amusing! Go for him, tell him. When you guys are talking and laughing just throw out there that you like him.
Answer mine: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Guy troubles? Please help...? :( (REALLY long, just to warn you all.)?
YES!!! At first I was thinking ehh he could, but I'm pretty sure he does after I read your convo thingy. Thats so cute girly!! You should keep flirty %26amp; go for it!!
Okay after getting 3 answers that saids go for it , i would be pissed if i was you.so what am i going to do? im going to give you a good answer.based on the info you gave me i cant really tell if he likes you but i can tell you what he will do if he likes you , a common sign that he likes you will be that he starts talking to you first.and most girls dont get that but unless a guy and a girl are good friends. we wont start talking to her first. im not talking about seeing a girl in the lunch line and saying ';hey, what are they serving';im talking about like texting a girl. so a good way to tell if a guy likes you is to get his number and if he textes you first , then hes definitely interested . you might say omg how am i going to get his number but you guys are in 3 classes . you can find a way . just one day when you guys are joking say ';hey , i dont get this homework, wanna talk about it tonight'; even if a girl i wasnt interested in asked me that , id be like ';okay cool i dont mind , sounds fun i like meeting new people'; from what you wrote he only said one thing.towards the end. you took a long time to wrote this so you obviously need help and i gave you a good response i hope. so have fun reading and goodluck.if you have any more questions , add me as a contact then post it and ill answer( i look at all my contacts questions)only log on days i have school off lol
go for it
answe my question?
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tl;dr
Just go for it, whats the worst that can happen?
Answer mine?
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Drama...I have a ';situation';!!! Help?
So....Does it seem like he likes me? :/?
Okay, so before i start, just need to let ya know; that YES i am a crazed young teenage girl, so if you cant handle my terrible spelling, or spaziness, or stupidness, then leave, NOW. ;D
Okay, so here's the situation:
oh, and by the way, thiis song basically describes how i feel. :D
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVzFyT0YQ鈥?/a>
Anywho, I REALLY really like this one dude.
He has the most amazing blue eyes, and kewlish brown hair.
So, he and i both have a few classes together, we have science and block (block is a mixture of language arts and social studies; therefore its two periods.) Oh, and we ride the same bus.
So, in block, he sits right behind me, and sometimes ill look back and smile at him, And one time, cuz i read this online, lol, it was a sorta ';test'; to see if hes actually starring at you. So, i looked at him, then at the clock, and i was pretty certain that he didnt look at me, but then i saw him loooking at me and continuing to glance at the clock. YAY!
And in block, if he or i get up to get like a tissue or something, the person sitting at the desk will always stare at the person walking back. :)
So, in science, i ALWAYS flirt with him, lmfao.
I was being all crazy/hyper and i told him, and my friend, that they had gotten married, and had a Madonna ganster baby, and so then, my crush got a piece of paper, and signed it, lol making it an actual divorce paper. ;D
Then, later i was teasing him about it in science, and my friend, told me i was married to John Mayer, the singer, cuz we hve the same last name. Teehee, then my crush told me i was maarried to these two dudes i barely know! we were all joking, fyi. After that, we were still in science, and my crush and i were dicussing how we rode the same bus, and so we realized we had the same stop, and so he just started randomly asking me where i live, lol, and turns out, he lives pretty close by to me. :))))
And, then we started talking about last names, and he was all joking around, and he finally guessed my last name.
Then, on the bus, he sat behind me and i was sitting alone in the seat in front of him and his friend, and so, like 2 mins into the ride, i turned around and started talking to him.
Here's sorta what our convo went like
Me: hey, lol i wasnt aware that i was married to 3 guys!
Him: yeah, youre married to every man on this planet, except for me.
Me: Well, why arent i married to you?
( i dont remember what he said after that, but it wasnt a diss or anything, i dont remember.)
As our conversation continued, we started talking about last names, and siblings, and he mentioned he had an older sister, who is apparently always out with her boyfriend, and yeah...then we were talking about where we both live, and we both got to joke about stalking each other.
Then, he figured out that my acctual naame is Madeleine, and so now hes gonna call mee that, and i asked him what his middle name is, and so now ima call him by his middle name.
And yeah, %26lt;3
lmfao, THANKS A BILLION for reading all thhat!!!
I'm so grateful, thanks, if you add a link to one of your quuestions, ill try my hardest to answer it!!
;]
oh, and by the way, today, my friend...called him randomly...and started talkign about me...she asked him if he likes me...and he responded ';i dont know what to say.'; and yeah, so...idk if he secretly likes me, or thinks im like scary now...help!!!Drama...I have a ';situation';!!! Help?
im not exactly sure how to help you with this situation.
but i did read all of it
just because the first answer-er said no one should read this humongous thing lol :)
or somethin like thatDrama...I have a ';situation';!!! Help?
Hi--
I'm not sure what your question was, but I'm guessing you want to know if he likes you or not, right? My guess is that he's interested in getting to know you better right now. Hence the ';I don't know what to say';. If he didn't like you now, I'm sure he would flat out say it. I hope for your sake he's a nice guy. have a great day!
who gonna read all those craps? please make ur question/story shorter!!!
The same sort of thing happened to me..
There was a really cool guy who would always stare at me and we were really good friends, and we were always talking and joking around and stuff.
ANd I did the clock trick too..LOL.
But anyways, it turned out he liked my best friend.
I think that if he likes you, he'll ask you out.
Because all the things you mentioned,
could mean just nothing...or they could mean everything.
Ask him out,
or wait for him to ask.
Good luck!music player
Okay, so before i start, just need to let ya know; that YES i am a crazed young teenage girl, so if you cant handle my terrible spelling, or spaziness, or stupidness, then leave, NOW. ;D
Okay, so here's the situation:
oh, and by the way, thiis song basically describes how i feel. :D
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Anywho, I REALLY really like this one dude.
He has the most amazing blue eyes, and kewlish brown hair.
So, he and i both have a few classes together, we have science and block (block is a mixture of language arts and social studies; therefore its two periods.) Oh, and we ride the same bus.
So, in block, he sits right behind me, and sometimes ill look back and smile at him, And one time, cuz i read this online, lol, it was a sorta ';test'; to see if hes actually starring at you. So, i looked at him, then at the clock, and i was pretty certain that he didnt look at me, but then i saw him loooking at me and continuing to glance at the clock. YAY!
And in block, if he or i get up to get like a tissue or something, the person sitting at the desk will always stare at the person walking back. :)
So, in science, i ALWAYS flirt with him, lmfao.
I was being all crazy/hyper and i told him, and my friend, that they had gotten married, and had a Madonna ganster baby, and so then, my crush got a piece of paper, and signed it, lol making it an actual divorce paper. ;D
Then, later i was teasing him about it in science, and my friend, told me i was married to John Mayer, the singer, cuz we hve the same last name. Teehee, then my crush told me i was maarried to these two dudes i barely know! we were all joking, fyi. After that, we were still in science, and my crush and i were dicussing how we rode the same bus, and so we realized we had the same stop, and so he just started randomly asking me where i live, lol, and turns out, he lives pretty close by to me. :))))
And, then we started talking about last names, and he was all joking around, and he finally guessed my last name.
Then, on the bus, he sat behind me and i was sitting alone in the seat in front of him and his friend, and so, like 2 mins into the ride, i turned around and started talking to him.
Here's sorta what our convo went like
Me: hey, lol i wasnt aware that i was married to 3 guys!
Him: yeah, youre married to every man on this planet, except for me.
Me: Well, why arent i married to you?
( i dont remember what he said after that, but it wasnt a diss or anything, i dont remember.)
As our conversation continued, we started talking about last names, and siblings, and he mentioned he had an older sister, who is apparently always out with her boyfriend, and yeah...then we were talking about where we both live, and we both got to joke about stalking each other.
Then, he figured out that my acctual naame is Madeleine, and so now hes gonna call mee that, and i asked him what his middle name is, and so now ima call him by his middle name.
And yeah, %26lt;3
lmfao, THANKS A BILLION for reading all thhat!!!
I'm so grateful, thanks, if you add a link to one of your quuestions, ill try my hardest to answer it!!
;]
oh, and by the way, today, my friend...called him randomly...and started talkign about me...she asked him if he likes me...and he responded ';i dont know what to say.'; and yeah, so...idk if he secretly likes me, or thinks im like scary now...help!!!Drama...I have a ';situation';!!! Help?
im not exactly sure how to help you with this situation.
but i did read all of it
just because the first answer-er said no one should read this humongous thing lol :)
or somethin like thatDrama...I have a ';situation';!!! Help?
Hi--
I'm not sure what your question was, but I'm guessing you want to know if he likes you or not, right? My guess is that he's interested in getting to know you better right now. Hence the ';I don't know what to say';. If he didn't like you now, I'm sure he would flat out say it. I hope for your sake he's a nice guy. have a great day!
who gonna read all those craps? please make ur question/story shorter!!!
The same sort of thing happened to me..
There was a really cool guy who would always stare at me and we were really good friends, and we were always talking and joking around and stuff.
ANd I did the clock trick too..LOL.
But anyways, it turned out he liked my best friend.
I think that if he likes you, he'll ask you out.
Because all the things you mentioned,
could mean just nothing...or they could mean everything.
Ask him out,
or wait for him to ask.
Good luck!
HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! 10 PTS.?
I need help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
okay so its a little early but im starting to look for my halloween costume bc my friends are and i looked at party city and their costumes are awsome but there so EXPENSIVE!!!!! i'm thinking of inviting my crush(you have to also help me with that bc i dont no how to ask him please read my other question) and anyway i want to look really hot but theres this really cute wig that im gonna get its the tinkerbell wig but people say i wont look good as a blonde ibc im a natural brunette but is there any makeup i could wear to make me look better as a blonde bc i look like kristen stewart im 12 turning 13. okay and my other question is there any place i can get a really cute costume that is only $20.00? please no mean comments thanks
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Help girls, guys!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
okay so i started likeing him last year,augest. i had no contact with him all through the year but this year i found him on myspace and my friend let me use her account to talk to him. so i added him as a friend and we started a conversation i asked him how his family is and so on it wasnt a long conversation. at the end i told him i'll see him at our school games because he's on the basketball team and i thought i would see him. but then the girl i was sharing an account with started talking about him all the time and saying she wanted to meet him. on the last response we had he said ya but you have to find me so i said you can run but you cant hide. but i found out that our schools arent playing each other until playoffs which iznt until the end of october. and she told me that she likes him when she doesnt even no him and my family has known his family for 12 years. he didnt respondHELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! 10 PTS.?
I think you should be a plain and simple witch. Its super cute. Where spider lace leggings. Wear i belt around ur stomach and it will make you look super skinny and hot.
Oh, and you two are great together i think. Don't let that girl get in the way, and dont start competition with her. It will make you look jealous, and he wont like that.
But anyways good luck!!
:)HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! 10 PTS.?
Means long distance relation ships don't work
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okay so its a little early but im starting to look for my halloween costume bc my friends are and i looked at party city and their costumes are awsome but there so EXPENSIVE!!!!! i'm thinking of inviting my crush(you have to also help me with that bc i dont no how to ask him please read my other question) and anyway i want to look really hot but theres this really cute wig that im gonna get its the tinkerbell wig but people say i wont look good as a blonde ibc im a natural brunette but is there any makeup i could wear to make me look better as a blonde bc i look like kristen stewart im 12 turning 13. okay and my other question is there any place i can get a really cute costume that is only $20.00? please no mean comments thanks
22 hours ago - 3 days left to answer.
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heres my other question:
Your Open QuestionShow me another 禄
Help girls, guys!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
okay so i started likeing him last year,augest. i had no contact with him all through the year but this year i found him on myspace and my friend let me use her account to talk to him. so i added him as a friend and we started a conversation i asked him how his family is and so on it wasnt a long conversation. at the end i told him i'll see him at our school games because he's on the basketball team and i thought i would see him. but then the girl i was sharing an account with started talking about him all the time and saying she wanted to meet him. on the last response we had he said ya but you have to find me so i said you can run but you cant hide. but i found out that our schools arent playing each other until playoffs which iznt until the end of october. and she told me that she likes him when she doesnt even no him and my family has known his family for 12 years. he didnt respondHELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! 10 PTS.?
I think you should be a plain and simple witch. Its super cute. Where spider lace leggings. Wear i belt around ur stomach and it will make you look super skinny and hot.
Oh, and you two are great together i think. Don't let that girl get in the way, and dont start competition with her. It will make you look jealous, and he wont like that.
But anyways good luck!!
:)HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! 10 PTS.?
Means long distance relation ships don't work
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http://www.wetseal.com/content.jsp?pageN鈥?/a>
How do you act on the first day of school?
i am going into high school and i am really nervous. I am the shy quiet type but around my friends and crush i am happy, funny, outgoing, and VERY nice. I want to be like this with everyone. How should i approach a possible friend? and what conversations should i start with? This is my last year living here in NY but i want to make it a great last year. Oh and BTW i am planning to join 2 or 3 clubs. Thanks for your help!How do you act on the first day of school?
I act the best possible way I can. I just want others to think that I am happy and apporachable. I'm just like you, shy, quiet, and only feeling comfortable around friends. Try talking to others about what clubs you're joining and remember to be yourself. No one likes a fake person ;)How do you act on the first day of school?
A wise man once said be yourself
you need to pop an x pill and that should solve your problems
do not pop anything like the person below me said ust be yourself because if your not...people will like something fake
don't listen to that guy @ the top.
ok act causal and cool
make sure you make friends with the cool kids
and some mid-popular people never geeks..and this is from my first day of school i was friends with some not so popular people..it took 3 years to make my way up to mid-popular.
but be yourself.
dont be nervous! high school is a lot more fun than middle school! and you will become friends with new people who are in your classes and that will slowly branch out into other people. you just have to go in confident! dont worry about anything people in high school are not as mean as people say! and yes you should get yourself involved with the school that will also help you to get to know more people.
Ok, don't freeze up or anything, and don't be afraid to speak your mind. First day of school is kinda like ';Hi, oh I love your outfit, don't you think he's cute, my summer was awesome'; and so on. You just have to get comfortable, and don't limit your personality to one crowd, makes friends with everyone. Don't stop talking constantly, tell stories/jokes, complement things, make statements, be flirty, and so on. But don't plan out everything, you can practice what you could say, but try not to make things planned, because when you have a plan, then things might not go as planned.
play it smooth keep it cool
and most importly be y
ur self and have some fun
i remember my first time goin into high school...as a homeschooled gal, about to be a junior, i would totally recommend being yourself...from past experiences, i learned that trying to be something that you arent WILL NOT WORK!!! if you approach a possible friend, and they reject you, do not take it personally...keep trying until your friendship list explodes!!! also i'm the quiet shy person around ALL ppl, whether they are friends or not...to solve that prob, i recommend pulling together a few stuffed animals in your room, pretending they are a big group of friends and just pick a subject you would talk about in reality...it worked for me!!! and as far as your freshman year goes, good luck =)
just don't worry about it I was the same way and u just got to take a chance with it ya i know it is hard at firs but after u make one or two friends u will see it is not really that bad :)
JUST BE YOURSELF AND DO GOOD TO OTHERS AND GOOD WILL FOLLOW U. NO NEED TO WORRY, REMEMBER
THAT ONLY U CAN MAKE U TRULY HAPPY.
Just try to be confident. Don't be really shy and stand behind everyone else. Try invite yourself into people's conversations and be really really nice to people. Nobody likes a shy person who doesn't talk lol, so try to be really talktative, but don't be too loud otherwise you might come across as being annoying or a busy body. Just be nice, and friendly :) and try to join in with as much as you can.
You shouldn't act at all! Be yourself and let things flow. The greatest part about being in school is that you meet new and different people. So if they were acting then meeting them would be pointless. Just enjoy school for what it is.
I act the best possible way I can. I just want others to think that I am happy and apporachable. I'm just like you, shy, quiet, and only feeling comfortable around friends. Try talking to others about what clubs you're joining and remember to be yourself. No one likes a fake person ;)How do you act on the first day of school?
A wise man once said be yourself
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you need to pop an x pill and that should solve your problems
do not pop anything like the person below me said ust be yourself because if your not...people will like something fake
don't listen to that guy @ the top.
ok act causal and cool
make sure you make friends with the cool kids
and some mid-popular people never geeks..and this is from my first day of school i was friends with some not so popular people..it took 3 years to make my way up to mid-popular.
but be yourself.
dont be nervous! high school is a lot more fun than middle school! and you will become friends with new people who are in your classes and that will slowly branch out into other people. you just have to go in confident! dont worry about anything people in high school are not as mean as people say! and yes you should get yourself involved with the school that will also help you to get to know more people.
Ok, don't freeze up or anything, and don't be afraid to speak your mind. First day of school is kinda like ';Hi, oh I love your outfit, don't you think he's cute, my summer was awesome'; and so on. You just have to get comfortable, and don't limit your personality to one crowd, makes friends with everyone. Don't stop talking constantly, tell stories/jokes, complement things, make statements, be flirty, and so on. But don't plan out everything, you can practice what you could say, but try not to make things planned, because when you have a plan, then things might not go as planned.
play it smooth keep it cool
and most importly be y
ur self and have some fun
i remember my first time goin into high school...as a homeschooled gal, about to be a junior, i would totally recommend being yourself...from past experiences, i learned that trying to be something that you arent WILL NOT WORK!!! if you approach a possible friend, and they reject you, do not take it personally...keep trying until your friendship list explodes!!! also i'm the quiet shy person around ALL ppl, whether they are friends or not...to solve that prob, i recommend pulling together a few stuffed animals in your room, pretending they are a big group of friends and just pick a subject you would talk about in reality...it worked for me!!! and as far as your freshman year goes, good luck =)
just don't worry about it I was the same way and u just got to take a chance with it ya i know it is hard at firs but after u make one or two friends u will see it is not really that bad :)
JUST BE YOURSELF AND DO GOOD TO OTHERS AND GOOD WILL FOLLOW U. NO NEED TO WORRY, REMEMBER
THAT ONLY U CAN MAKE U TRULY HAPPY.
Just try to be confident. Don't be really shy and stand behind everyone else. Try invite yourself into people's conversations and be really really nice to people. Nobody likes a shy person who doesn't talk lol, so try to be really talktative, but don't be too loud otherwise you might come across as being annoying or a busy body. Just be nice, and friendly :) and try to join in with as much as you can.
You shouldn't act at all! Be yourself and let things flow. The greatest part about being in school is that you meet new and different people. So if they were acting then meeting them would be pointless. Just enjoy school for what it is.
I wish i can turn back time?
you see i've been having a crush on this guy that all my friends say that he's ugly but i think he's really cute he's been on my mind for the past 4 or 5 months ,the first 2 months of that crush was awesome everybody knew i had a crush on him and they were always talking about me ,even everybody on his bus knew i had a crush on him.The first day he talked to me was the best for me at least ,i was talking to my friends who's on his bus to the bus lines suddenly he saw me and started to talk to us (me ,my friend and this other guy who we meet up with)
so he started the conversation by oh (my name) said something disguisting like i have a crush on him ,then i asked him how does he know my name , he said that this guy told me your name , after that he didn't say anything he just kept looking at me while i was talking to my friend .The next morning people on his bus kept on telling me that he drew a picture of me with an X on it in this agenda.Now from that day i have to talk to him firstI wish i can turn back time?
everything happens for a reason, we can't control what we didn't createI wish i can turn back time?
yeah whats your question?
Um... good luck?
What is your question?
so he started the conversation by oh (my name) said something disguisting like i have a crush on him ,then i asked him how does he know my name , he said that this guy told me your name , after that he didn't say anything he just kept looking at me while i was talking to my friend .The next morning people on his bus kept on telling me that he drew a picture of me with an X on it in this agenda.Now from that day i have to talk to him firstI wish i can turn back time?
everything happens for a reason, we can't control what we didn't createI wish i can turn back time?
yeah whats your question?
Um... good luck?
What is your question?
Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice (ridiculously long)?
I have been going back and forth on the ethics of this since I started this account, but in the last few days, most notably in the question about crushes on me and someone’s statement about how valuable my opinion is specifically because they see me as a dad, I’ve decided that my position has become indefensible.
I’m female. I’m a married mom of four kids. I used to post here as “mom as 4”. After being seriously harassed by a couple of creepy people, I started a new account with a male avatar (with a gender-neutral name) with the sole intention of ending the harassment. It worked beautifully; the harassment stopped. [Interestingly, my questions and answers, which previously were perceived as totally unremarkable, suddenly began to be showered with compliments. I could write an entire book on what I’ve learned about how people treat someone based on their perceived gender. ]
In my defense, such as it is, I’ve never once said I’m male. Never once. I’ve said explicitly on this board that I don’t reveal everything about myself online and that though I wouldn’t lie, I would and do allow other people’s misimpressions of me on here to stand uncorrected. I’ve never answered a single question directed towards dads or men, or to which I thought my gender was somehow relevant to evaluating my answer (and I’ve answered hundreds of questions directed towards moms and women).
Every single thing I’ve ever said in any question or answer is true; every opinion I’ve given is my own; every fact I’ve shared about my experiences with my kids is real; my exchanges with all of you, whether I like you or not, have all been utterly genuine. My face doesn’t match my avatar, but I am exactly what you’ve seen in all other ways. The avatar was never for a second intended to deceive real users, just to put off creepy trolls. I’ve kept my email off largely because I thought that developing that kind of personal relationship ethically required revealing my real gender. It was never my intention to seek out or make friends on this board at all; that has happened quite by accident. I honestly never expected to be particularly noticed on this board, and even if I were, I didn’t think my gender would be relevant. I’ve had dozens of conversations with real-life friends who assured me that my gender was irrelevant to my opinions and there was nothing wrong with using a male avatar on an anonymous site like this one; I’ve even had multiple exchanges with people on this board where virtually everyone said that they wouldn’t care about something like that. I allowed myself to be reassured by those exchanges, but at this point I’ve decided I should not have. I shouldn’t have done it, and I regret it.
So, there it is. I am “desmeran,” but desmeran is not a guy. I hope nobody cares. If you do care, you have my apology. And if you’re all sufficiently irked, or if the “boy who cried wolf” effect is strong enough that you find it hard to believe anything else I say, then I can acknowledge that I brought that on myself, and I suppose that will probably be a good impetus for me to finally go do something more productive with my day. If you want me to stay out of your questions, please make that clear by blocking me, and I will honor that.
Off to change my avatar and absorb some well-earned criticism.Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice (ridiculously long)?
it is human nature to judge a book by it's cover. LOL, good experiment. Many of us coincide that a man could not possibly know how to parent as well as a more experienced mother. Your disadvantage in your experiment is the fact you/or someone else identified you as a lawyer. That made you smart in the eyes of the world, and no matter what your advice people would be more prone to listen to you, even if you appeared to be male.Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice (ridiculously long)?
wow interesting. I think I remember you as mom of 4. I am shocked and while I sort of feel deceived, I totally understand why you did it and the outcome was interesting, I grew to love Des, but I'm pretty sure I loved you as mom of 4 as well.
i only thought you were male because of others calling you ';Uncle Des'; but I dont care if you are male, female of even something in between. you make me laugh, even if your kid does have smelly feet!!!!
Wow! Your still a cool person :)
Now I get why on your other answer, you said your avatar does not resemble you in the least ;)
Wow I'm speechless! Your still my fav though and I'll always greatly appreciate and value your opinion.
Whew! How does being ';out of the closet'; feel? I'm so proud of you!!! LOL
Wow amazing! I still love your questions and answers!
Rofl :-)
I thought you sounded familiar!
I've been suggesting to my husband that he come on here %26amp; flirt around a bit for fun, since the girls really seem to love a man who parents like him ;-)
ETA: You've made my day right now. How fun! I'm singing ';Did I ever tell you you're my hero'; in my head for you right now :-p
OK - and one more ETA, because I didn't answer your question... ';Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice?';
Only in that it makes me stop to think, if the 'man' is presenting himself as a thoughtful, gentle, concerned, involved parent, ';Wow this is cool how the world is changing! And, this guy sure is strong, emotionally, to buck societal expectations %26amp; live in a way that he knows is right for him and for his family'; But, the advice itself has to stand on it's own merits.
i have never read any of your questions, except for this one. but i have seen your answers from some of my contacts, and i thought you were a guy to only because of the avatar. but man or woman, i don't care what you are. apparently im not on enough to catch one of your questions. :)
Well - I am newer to the boards than some, and not as new as most. I only came across this question because of the crush one... and then I thought someone had stolen your identity. I now know different.
I am of a position that I always looked forward to your answers because of the fact that you seem to have the rules and advice that I always want. The things I want to apply to my house and feel opposed by my spouse. I am not always strong enough to believe that the way I want things are the right way. I am getting there though and sometimes just need to be reaffirmed. For some, people like me, this is sometimes really important. YA gives advice, jokes, and a camaraderie that some of us don't have in real life.
I did look forward to the male perspective of it, but overall the answer is the important thing. I always wished you would accept friends, so maybe this is a blessing! lol... Thank you for your personality, and your candor, and I hope this doesn't effect your YA relationship too much!
Looking forward to many more answers (boosters) from you --- Schmee.
So you aren't that less-than-romantic guy I thought you were? ; )
Okay... Here's what I got out of this experiment (and I'm sure you are all too familiar w/ this)... I've made myself more cautious of how I word things..... You won't see me asking a question that is directed to the *moms* on this board. Lesson learned. That's it. : )
Nothing else has changed. I still view you as a parent that I admire and enjoy. Hey, at least now I can say I love desmeran and not feel awkward, lol. ...... And, you do know what this is going to do to Charli, right?
No criticism from me. You did what you had to do to fend of internet stalkers. You ever deliberately lied to anyone.
For the very short time that I have come to know you ..... about as far as last week, when everyone was calling me a troll, you stood out to me, but probably because you ';were'; a man. Besides Mr Wybie, you were the only man that answered my questions.
Your answers are always very good and like most others said, who cares male or female, inny or outy, no difference really when it came to your answers.
You truly seem like a very nice lady and its totally understandable why you did it too.
honestly I think people do make assumptions about gender when it comes to raising children,because in more cases than not a man doesn't really take care of his children,they see it as a mothers job not a fathers job.When people see a father taking an active role in their children's live they think WOW he is a good man,but if you are a mother taking an active role in your children's lives they see it as a duty that you are suppose to do...but yeah this is actually funny kind of like undercover research.
Well, I always assumed you were a man, based on your avatar, but that's not why I liked you. I like your opinions. You did seem sensitive (is that the word?) for a man, but also honest, rational and intelligent...and like a good parent, which is all that matters on here!
I'm surprised...but not offended.
I think I can explain the compliments though...your answers seem insightful and correct...and it was amazing that they'd be coming from a man...No offense to any dad's in the room. That was one of the reasons that I'd scroll down to see your answers...quite honestly.
That's not to say that men aren't excellent parents too or that they don't also have great advice...I just find that not only is that more true for women...but men also don't seem to communicate the same way.
So to have found an insightful male parent on an advice board, communicating articulately and insightfuly...that was amazing in and of itself...lol
In any case...I'm with Johnny's mom...I'm shocked, but not offended and will be thoroughly confused if you go and change your avatar and your name.
:)
Holy. Mary. Mother. Of. God.
Welps, now that the initial shock has warn off, I still value your opinion Ms. Des (or would you prefer Mrs. Des?).
I harbor no resentment or ill feelings towards you, now will you allow me to add you as a contact???
*Interesting to note that it does make Charli's whole fantasy about you dancing to Footloose in legwarmers just as funny!*
I admire your honesty , rather male or female. I think people did have more interst due to the fact it was coming from ';a male perspective';. Not that men don't have good parenting skills , they just usally don't talk about it as much.
You can still give us your insight, values views, and all the things that you did, but like the others have said it wont be as special, because it is expected more from moms.
You can still answer my questions, and I will still answer yours.
the thing that will confuse me more is having to look for your avatar and name lol
Desmeran, I love you, will you be my contact NOW? Lol. Nothing's changed but I will have to adjust my fantasies. Congrats on coming out.
WOW!!!!! I missed this earlier (although I saw and answered the question from Johnny's mommy). Yes, I am surprised and maybe the open minded me I thought I was needs and overhaul. The picture really did look male though and the name being ambiguous. Now I feel silly. You wrote a question about missing children once and I said you were thinking like a man;) We love ya no matter whether you're xy xx or yyy or yza:)
Wow.I have to admit I am shocked.But ether way I respect you as a parent and a person.I think you give great advice.I guess nothing really has changed you are still the same person.You are des or what ever your name is.I still respect your answers because they are good advice.
Your answers are what matters. They are good answers. I will hope that you continue to answer the questions I have with the same thoughtfulness. And I will answer yours the same. And I don't even know if you want my answers.
Wow, I'm shocked, I never would have guessed. But, NO my opinion still has not changed, we still ♥ you!
First, I will admit I didn't read ALL of it (I affectionately blame my ADD), but I am shocked. It's very interesting how it all panned out though. And to admit I had a ';crush'; on your intelligence is embarassing hahaha. You really had me fooled with your male avatar and your compassion and intelligence that a lot of men seem to lack (at least on this board). You stood out soley because of your male avatar and ';represented'; men in a positive way. I'm definately not angry, just shocked and suprised!
i am touched. i am taking you at complete face value. thats all i have. i commend you. i am in awe of you. i find you to be an excellent woman. i have always admired your views on equality and wondered how exactly a man could have so much insight into issues i deem ';woman'; ones, in my own mind, of course. i don't mean to be sexist w/that statement at all. it is just my own personal experience with the world around me.
des my dear you are a resource that this board needs very much. please do not go away because of this. it would be too sad.
you owe us not an explaination, but since you did, that is character that is uncommon. to shower you with more praise i feel would just make you uncomfortable, so i will just say - thank you for your honesty. :-)
Everyone has spoken pretty much what I would say ! You sound really sincere, but I don't think I can picture you as a mom lol :-) I've had two accounts before, and both I deleted because people were rude and permissive. You did answer some questions I asked in those accounts, and from then on I was a fan. You honestly changed my perspectives on men, and in hope that there are some really decent men %26amp; fathers out there who play active and vital roles in their children's lives.
You always were and are always gonna be deserman, the fabulous parent with good ethics and morals ::: but everyone on this broad just assumed you were a dude !!!
WTF? Didn't you see my *confession* Q yesterday?? You could've posted this there and saved 5 points!!
But I a shocked as well! I guess I tend to believe what people on here tell me, since I have no other way of knowing the truth.
I'm not mad or angry, you are who you are whether it's male or female. I still believe that your opinions are still the truth and that's all that matters.
I suspected, Desmeran, because you never referred to your 'wife' only your spouse!
i can be a pretty sharp marble, sometimes!
I did defend you once though, when someone posted a question about whether desmeran was a male or female.
But this new revelation does not make me want you to stay out of my questions~ not sure why it would. If anything, bring all your answers on!
Huh... Your answers always stuck out to me because my husband is a SAHD and is just as involved as you are (not always the case with husbands).
Either way, who cares IMO.
Don't care if your a man or woman. I do respect the way you have with words however and a lot of people listen to you. So keep up the good advice. Now the men haters are coming out. Thank you.
I take a few days off to deal with an asthma attack and we've got MAJOR developments. Interesting.
Well, congrats to you on your study in human behaviors towards the different sexes :)
I’m female. I’m a married mom of four kids. I used to post here as “mom as 4”. After being seriously harassed by a couple of creepy people, I started a new account with a male avatar (with a gender-neutral name) with the sole intention of ending the harassment. It worked beautifully; the harassment stopped. [Interestingly, my questions and answers, which previously were perceived as totally unremarkable, suddenly began to be showered with compliments. I could write an entire book on what I’ve learned about how people treat someone based on their perceived gender. ]
In my defense, such as it is, I’ve never once said I’m male. Never once. I’ve said explicitly on this board that I don’t reveal everything about myself online and that though I wouldn’t lie, I would and do allow other people’s misimpressions of me on here to stand uncorrected. I’ve never answered a single question directed towards dads or men, or to which I thought my gender was somehow relevant to evaluating my answer (and I’ve answered hundreds of questions directed towards moms and women).
Every single thing I’ve ever said in any question or answer is true; every opinion I’ve given is my own; every fact I’ve shared about my experiences with my kids is real; my exchanges with all of you, whether I like you or not, have all been utterly genuine. My face doesn’t match my avatar, but I am exactly what you’ve seen in all other ways. The avatar was never for a second intended to deceive real users, just to put off creepy trolls. I’ve kept my email off largely because I thought that developing that kind of personal relationship ethically required revealing my real gender. It was never my intention to seek out or make friends on this board at all; that has happened quite by accident. I honestly never expected to be particularly noticed on this board, and even if I were, I didn’t think my gender would be relevant. I’ve had dozens of conversations with real-life friends who assured me that my gender was irrelevant to my opinions and there was nothing wrong with using a male avatar on an anonymous site like this one; I’ve even had multiple exchanges with people on this board where virtually everyone said that they wouldn’t care about something like that. I allowed myself to be reassured by those exchanges, but at this point I’ve decided I should not have. I shouldn’t have done it, and I regret it.
So, there it is. I am “desmeran,” but desmeran is not a guy. I hope nobody cares. If you do care, you have my apology. And if you’re all sufficiently irked, or if the “boy who cried wolf” effect is strong enough that you find it hard to believe anything else I say, then I can acknowledge that I brought that on myself, and I suppose that will probably be a good impetus for me to finally go do something more productive with my day. If you want me to stay out of your questions, please make that clear by blocking me, and I will honor that.
Off to change my avatar and absorb some well-earned criticism.Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice (ridiculously long)?
it is human nature to judge a book by it's cover. LOL, good experiment. Many of us coincide that a man could not possibly know how to parent as well as a more experienced mother. Your disadvantage in your experiment is the fact you/or someone else identified you as a lawyer. That made you smart in the eyes of the world, and no matter what your advice people would be more prone to listen to you, even if you appeared to be male.Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice (ridiculously long)?
wow interesting. I think I remember you as mom of 4. I am shocked and while I sort of feel deceived, I totally understand why you did it and the outcome was interesting, I grew to love Des, but I'm pretty sure I loved you as mom of 4 as well.
i only thought you were male because of others calling you ';Uncle Des'; but I dont care if you are male, female of even something in between. you make me laugh, even if your kid does have smelly feet!!!!
Wow! Your still a cool person :)
Now I get why on your other answer, you said your avatar does not resemble you in the least ;)
Wow I'm speechless! Your still my fav though and I'll always greatly appreciate and value your opinion.
Whew! How does being ';out of the closet'; feel? I'm so proud of you!!! LOL
Wow amazing! I still love your questions and answers!
Rofl :-)
I thought you sounded familiar!
I've been suggesting to my husband that he come on here %26amp; flirt around a bit for fun, since the girls really seem to love a man who parents like him ;-)
ETA: You've made my day right now. How fun! I'm singing ';Did I ever tell you you're my hero'; in my head for you right now :-p
OK - and one more ETA, because I didn't answer your question... ';Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice?';
Only in that it makes me stop to think, if the 'man' is presenting himself as a thoughtful, gentle, concerned, involved parent, ';Wow this is cool how the world is changing! And, this guy sure is strong, emotionally, to buck societal expectations %26amp; live in a way that he knows is right for him and for his family'; But, the advice itself has to stand on it's own merits.
i have never read any of your questions, except for this one. but i have seen your answers from some of my contacts, and i thought you were a guy to only because of the avatar. but man or woman, i don't care what you are. apparently im not on enough to catch one of your questions. :)
Well - I am newer to the boards than some, and not as new as most. I only came across this question because of the crush one... and then I thought someone had stolen your identity. I now know different.
I am of a position that I always looked forward to your answers because of the fact that you seem to have the rules and advice that I always want. The things I want to apply to my house and feel opposed by my spouse. I am not always strong enough to believe that the way I want things are the right way. I am getting there though and sometimes just need to be reaffirmed. For some, people like me, this is sometimes really important. YA gives advice, jokes, and a camaraderie that some of us don't have in real life.
I did look forward to the male perspective of it, but overall the answer is the important thing. I always wished you would accept friends, so maybe this is a blessing! lol... Thank you for your personality, and your candor, and I hope this doesn't effect your YA relationship too much!
Looking forward to many more answers (boosters) from you --- Schmee.
So you aren't that less-than-romantic guy I thought you were? ; )
Okay... Here's what I got out of this experiment (and I'm sure you are all too familiar w/ this)... I've made myself more cautious of how I word things..... You won't see me asking a question that is directed to the *moms* on this board. Lesson learned. That's it. : )
Nothing else has changed. I still view you as a parent that I admire and enjoy. Hey, at least now I can say I love desmeran and not feel awkward, lol. ...... And, you do know what this is going to do to Charli, right?
No criticism from me. You did what you had to do to fend of internet stalkers. You ever deliberately lied to anyone.
For the very short time that I have come to know you ..... about as far as last week, when everyone was calling me a troll, you stood out to me, but probably because you ';were'; a man. Besides Mr Wybie, you were the only man that answered my questions.
Your answers are always very good and like most others said, who cares male or female, inny or outy, no difference really when it came to your answers.
You truly seem like a very nice lady and its totally understandable why you did it too.
honestly I think people do make assumptions about gender when it comes to raising children,because in more cases than not a man doesn't really take care of his children,they see it as a mothers job not a fathers job.When people see a father taking an active role in their children's live they think WOW he is a good man,but if you are a mother taking an active role in your children's lives they see it as a duty that you are suppose to do...but yeah this is actually funny kind of like undercover research.
Well, I always assumed you were a man, based on your avatar, but that's not why I liked you. I like your opinions. You did seem sensitive (is that the word?) for a man, but also honest, rational and intelligent...and like a good parent, which is all that matters on here!
I'm surprised...but not offended.
I think I can explain the compliments though...your answers seem insightful and correct...and it was amazing that they'd be coming from a man...No offense to any dad's in the room. That was one of the reasons that I'd scroll down to see your answers...quite honestly.
That's not to say that men aren't excellent parents too or that they don't also have great advice...I just find that not only is that more true for women...but men also don't seem to communicate the same way.
So to have found an insightful male parent on an advice board, communicating articulately and insightfuly...that was amazing in and of itself...lol
In any case...I'm with Johnny's mom...I'm shocked, but not offended and will be thoroughly confused if you go and change your avatar and your name.
:)
Holy. Mary. Mother. Of. God.
Welps, now that the initial shock has warn off, I still value your opinion Ms. Des (or would you prefer Mrs. Des?).
I harbor no resentment or ill feelings towards you, now will you allow me to add you as a contact???
*Interesting to note that it does make Charli's whole fantasy about you dancing to Footloose in legwarmers just as funny!*
I admire your honesty , rather male or female. I think people did have more interst due to the fact it was coming from ';a male perspective';. Not that men don't have good parenting skills , they just usally don't talk about it as much.
You can still give us your insight, values views, and all the things that you did, but like the others have said it wont be as special, because it is expected more from moms.
You can still answer my questions, and I will still answer yours.
the thing that will confuse me more is having to look for your avatar and name lol
Desmeran, I love you, will you be my contact NOW? Lol. Nothing's changed but I will have to adjust my fantasies. Congrats on coming out.
WOW!!!!! I missed this earlier (although I saw and answered the question from Johnny's mommy). Yes, I am surprised and maybe the open minded me I thought I was needs and overhaul. The picture really did look male though and the name being ambiguous. Now I feel silly. You wrote a question about missing children once and I said you were thinking like a man;) We love ya no matter whether you're xy xx or yyy or yza:)
Wow.I have to admit I am shocked.But ether way I respect you as a parent and a person.I think you give great advice.I guess nothing really has changed you are still the same person.You are des or what ever your name is.I still respect your answers because they are good advice.
Your answers are what matters. They are good answers. I will hope that you continue to answer the questions I have with the same thoughtfulness. And I will answer yours the same. And I don't even know if you want my answers.
Wow, I'm shocked, I never would have guessed. But, NO my opinion still has not changed, we still ♥ you!
First, I will admit I didn't read ALL of it (I affectionately blame my ADD), but I am shocked. It's very interesting how it all panned out though. And to admit I had a ';crush'; on your intelligence is embarassing hahaha. You really had me fooled with your male avatar and your compassion and intelligence that a lot of men seem to lack (at least on this board). You stood out soley because of your male avatar and ';represented'; men in a positive way. I'm definately not angry, just shocked and suprised!
i am touched. i am taking you at complete face value. thats all i have. i commend you. i am in awe of you. i find you to be an excellent woman. i have always admired your views on equality and wondered how exactly a man could have so much insight into issues i deem ';woman'; ones, in my own mind, of course. i don't mean to be sexist w/that statement at all. it is just my own personal experience with the world around me.
des my dear you are a resource that this board needs very much. please do not go away because of this. it would be too sad.
you owe us not an explaination, but since you did, that is character that is uncommon. to shower you with more praise i feel would just make you uncomfortable, so i will just say - thank you for your honesty. :-)
Everyone has spoken pretty much what I would say ! You sound really sincere, but I don't think I can picture you as a mom lol :-) I've had two accounts before, and both I deleted because people were rude and permissive. You did answer some questions I asked in those accounts, and from then on I was a fan. You honestly changed my perspectives on men, and in hope that there are some really decent men %26amp; fathers out there who play active and vital roles in their children's lives.
You always were and are always gonna be deserman, the fabulous parent with good ethics and morals ::: but everyone on this broad just assumed you were a dude !!!
WTF? Didn't you see my *confession* Q yesterday?? You could've posted this there and saved 5 points!!
But I a shocked as well! I guess I tend to believe what people on here tell me, since I have no other way of knowing the truth.
I'm not mad or angry, you are who you are whether it's male or female. I still believe that your opinions are still the truth and that's all that matters.
I suspected, Desmeran, because you never referred to your 'wife' only your spouse!
i can be a pretty sharp marble, sometimes!
I did defend you once though, when someone posted a question about whether desmeran was a male or female.
But this new revelation does not make me want you to stay out of my questions~ not sure why it would. If anything, bring all your answers on!
Huh... Your answers always stuck out to me because my husband is a SAHD and is just as involved as you are (not always the case with husbands).
Either way, who cares IMO.
Don't care if your a man or woman. I do respect the way you have with words however and a lot of people listen to you. So keep up the good advice. Now the men haters are coming out. Thank you.
I take a few days off to deal with an asthma attack and we've got MAJOR developments. Interesting.
Well, congrats to you on your study in human behaviors towards the different sexes :)
I need help with my insecurity. please.?
im 13 years old, and ive never had a boyfriend. i feel fatt and ugly because all my friends are so pretty and have already made out with alot of people. im super shy. i sont know how to put on make up. and ive always been the odd one out. no one has a crush on me. i was at my locker today and i heard my ex- best guy friend talking to this kid who rejected me for this super pretty girl a few weeks ago. on the bus, i was a little sniffly because my mom had said that i looked like a whore because i didnt put my make up on right. so this really cute 8th grader said '; oh? whats wrong? '; i said '; im so ugly. everyone thinks so'; and he said '; you've got it wrong, your beauiful'; after we got into the biulding, the 8th grader joins into my ex- best guy friends conversation. starts making fun of me with the other 2 guys, and thats when i started to cry even more. i feel like everyone can do there make up so nice and everyone has a boyfriend but me. im so upset. can someone please help me?I need help with my insecurity. please.?
Darling, I still don't know how to do make-up and I am in my 20's. You teach people how to treat you, so right now the message you are sending into the world is : I don't value myself and and I am not beautiful. I can tell you this without even seeing you, that you are beautiful because I a believe everyone is. Don't compare yourself too much against others, everyone has insecurities even if they do not show it. Even celebrities have a hard time living up to an image of beauty. You need to start thinking about your strenghts and start praising yourself. People will hurt you in life until the day you die that is a given, that you cannot change, the only thing you can change is how you respond to others. Love yourself and set your own standards and goals.I need help with my insecurity. please.?
Ok, I am your age. My crush rejected me and told me to basically never speak to him again.
I am shy to.
I realized, you just have to live life. This time is so awkward, you just have to deal with it. I used to write in a journal, now I listen to music when I am upset.
Darling, I still don't know how to do make-up and I am in my 20's. You teach people how to treat you, so right now the message you are sending into the world is : I don't value myself and and I am not beautiful. I can tell you this without even seeing you, that you are beautiful because I a believe everyone is. Don't compare yourself too much against others, everyone has insecurities even if they do not show it. Even celebrities have a hard time living up to an image of beauty. You need to start thinking about your strenghts and start praising yourself. People will hurt you in life until the day you die that is a given, that you cannot change, the only thing you can change is how you respond to others. Love yourself and set your own standards and goals.I need help with my insecurity. please.?
Ok, I am your age. My crush rejected me and told me to basically never speak to him again.
I am shy to.
I realized, you just have to live life. This time is so awkward, you just have to deal with it. I used to write in a journal, now I listen to music when I am upset.
How do I ask her to hang out? Please read all, prefer if girls answered?
Well we barely know each other I talked to her once in 8th grade and now we are in different schools but I met her in facebook again I had a crush on her ever since like 4th grade and to describe myself I am pretty smart (i go to private school on scholarship) I am nice I plan on staying a virgin till 18 and basically your average nice guy stuff, I only know her a bit she is really smart also and etc.. well how do I go about asking her phone? herself? or when to hangout? Because I tend to spout weird stuff when I am talking online? What should I start to the conversation with? I know what school she goes to but I think it's weird if I just pop out of nowhere irl and ask to hang out so imma ask her on facebook first. Meh advice pls?How do I ask her to hang out? Please read all, prefer if girls answered?
Don't ask her out out over face book or text a girl will hate that..... but next time you and your friends are going bowling or kickin back whatever invite her a couple of days before at least 3or 4 tell her to bring some friends if she wants... that way there is no obligations with her.. You can say something like hey me and some friends are going bowling would you and some friends like to come...when all you guys are hanging out together take her aside away from everyone and tell her you would like to get to know her a little more and ask if you can take her on a date if she says yes then get her number.How do I ask her to hang out? Please read all, prefer if girls answered?
well. um... don't do it too abrubtly, and DON'T ask her in a shy way. she'll think you're an immature stalker. no offence. bur BEFORE that just get to know her a little, strike up a random conversation. like sometimes random guys on my facebook list will say';hi'; even though i had never really talked to them. then we'll talk about school and sports and french fries.Its better to ask her out in person, its way more sincere. even if you say wierd stuff on chat, i think its a way she can get to know you better. but WAIT, make sure she doesn't have a boyfriend already or you'll probably gat pretty injured. approach friendly, and don't start bragging about non-existent muscles. No offence, guys think they're impressing the girl. but the girl is probably disgusted. (:
Well if you barely know each other, maybe asking her out is too bold. Some girls appreciate guys who take things a bit slower. Maybe you could arrange some studying together at the public library or something. Studying is good cause there's always something to talk about but you can still have a normal conversation at the same time. That's my suggestion. Maybe go on facebook and look under her ';interests--music'; and see what songs she's into. Get some on itunes(if u have an ipod) and make a playlist. That way if she gets bored of studying you two can listen to music together which is always fun! If you feel more comfortable on facebook asking her then do so, but maybe calling is better.Girls appreciate guys who don't just hide behind a keyboard. If she seems really open friendly and making lots of eye contact the first meeting try asking her to a movie and see where things go from there.
~Best of Luck
Plan on staying a virgin? Brave man.
Don't ask her out out over face book or text a girl will hate that..... but next time you and your friends are going bowling or kickin back whatever invite her a couple of days before at least 3or 4 tell her to bring some friends if she wants... that way there is no obligations with her.. You can say something like hey me and some friends are going bowling would you and some friends like to come...when all you guys are hanging out together take her aside away from everyone and tell her you would like to get to know her a little more and ask if you can take her on a date if she says yes then get her number.How do I ask her to hang out? Please read all, prefer if girls answered?
well. um... don't do it too abrubtly, and DON'T ask her in a shy way. she'll think you're an immature stalker. no offence. bur BEFORE that just get to know her a little, strike up a random conversation. like sometimes random guys on my facebook list will say';hi'; even though i had never really talked to them. then we'll talk about school and sports and french fries.Its better to ask her out in person, its way more sincere. even if you say wierd stuff on chat, i think its a way she can get to know you better. but WAIT, make sure she doesn't have a boyfriend already or you'll probably gat pretty injured. approach friendly, and don't start bragging about non-existent muscles. No offence, guys think they're impressing the girl. but the girl is probably disgusted. (:
Well if you barely know each other, maybe asking her out is too bold. Some girls appreciate guys who take things a bit slower. Maybe you could arrange some studying together at the public library or something. Studying is good cause there's always something to talk about but you can still have a normal conversation at the same time. That's my suggestion. Maybe go on facebook and look under her ';interests--music'; and see what songs she's into. Get some on itunes(if u have an ipod) and make a playlist. That way if she gets bored of studying you two can listen to music together which is always fun! If you feel more comfortable on facebook asking her then do so, but maybe calling is better.Girls appreciate guys who don't just hide behind a keyboard. If she seems really open friendly and making lots of eye contact the first meeting try asking her to a movie and see where things go from there.
~Best of Luck
Plan on staying a virgin? Brave man.
How should I go about asking this girl I like to hang out?
Well we barely know each other I talked to her once in 8th grade and now we are in different schools but I met her in facebook again I had a crush on her ever since like 4th grade and to describe myself I am pretty smart (i go to private school on scholarship) I am nice I plan on staying a virgin till 18 and basically your average nice guy stuff, I only know her a bit she is really smart also and etc.. well how do I go about asking her phone? herself? or when to hangout? Because I tend to spout weird stuff when I am talking online? What should I start to the conversation with? I know what school she goes to but I think it's weird if I just pop out of nowhere irl and ask to hang out so imma ask her on facebook first. Meh advice pls?How should I go about asking this girl I like to hang out?
yeah i get you im in the same possesion.. facebook her lol jus go up and talk to her it might look weird but its worth the shot in the end... you like her riight so take the risk :) get to know one of her frens u know... they might link you up with her...:)How should I go about asking this girl I like to hang out?
cool nice going wish you luck, keep it up dude!!! :)
Strike up a convo on facebook with her. Say you want to see a certain movie, but none of your friends want to go. Hopefully she will go to the movie with you. Then take it from there. Good luck :D
dont ask her to hangout.....,. you talked to her once..
to start an conversation like this hey you use to go to my school right (subject old school). then go into now and then what she is doing, but make sure its fast and quick and then dont talk to her for a while i guess.
Well talking to her only leads to more feelings if you want to remain a virgin until you are 18 focus on school and getting ahead.
tell her hey Maybe after High School (if your STILL interested) maybe you two can hit it off.
Otherwise go do other things such as sports...why give yourself so much trouble.
Hi! The name's ____ and as I looked back in my yearbook it reminded me of the time when I met you blabla Anyway I was wondering if youd like to get some (choice of food) to catch up on old times.
Be creative and spontaneous. This is just an example of what you can say to alleve the awkwardness between time. If she says no to ur invitation, consider her uninterested unless she personally makes plans to see you some other time. Hope this helps. :)
By the way can you answer my short poll? Thanks
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
first dont get nervous take it slow and see were it goes after all the best things in life r free
just act casual, be like hey we should so hang sometime i havent seen you in forever, make it seem like you do that with everyone so than she wont feel uncumfterble with you. if you wre like hey i really like you do you want to hang out? she'd be like noooo! so just act casual and get to know her in person
yeah i get you im in the same possesion.. facebook her lol jus go up and talk to her it might look weird but its worth the shot in the end... you like her riight so take the risk :) get to know one of her frens u know... they might link you up with her...:)How should I go about asking this girl I like to hang out?
cool nice going wish you luck, keep it up dude!!! :)
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Strike up a convo on facebook with her. Say you want to see a certain movie, but none of your friends want to go. Hopefully she will go to the movie with you. Then take it from there. Good luck :D
dont ask her to hangout.....,. you talked to her once..
to start an conversation like this hey you use to go to my school right (subject old school). then go into now and then what she is doing, but make sure its fast and quick and then dont talk to her for a while i guess.
Well talking to her only leads to more feelings if you want to remain a virgin until you are 18 focus on school and getting ahead.
tell her hey Maybe after High School (if your STILL interested) maybe you two can hit it off.
Otherwise go do other things such as sports...why give yourself so much trouble.
Hi! The name's ____ and as I looked back in my yearbook it reminded me of the time when I met you blabla Anyway I was wondering if youd like to get some (choice of food) to catch up on old times.
Be creative and spontaneous. This is just an example of what you can say to alleve the awkwardness between time. If she says no to ur invitation, consider her uninterested unless she personally makes plans to see you some other time. Hope this helps. :)
By the way can you answer my short poll? Thanks
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
first dont get nervous take it slow and see were it goes after all the best things in life r free
just act casual, be like hey we should so hang sometime i havent seen you in forever, make it seem like you do that with everyone so than she wont feel uncumfterble with you. if you wre like hey i really like you do you want to hang out? she'd be like noooo! so just act casual and get to know her in person
How to talk to someone you like at the gym...?
I've seen this guy at the gym that I kind of have a crush on. He seems really nice. We have made eye contact and smiled at each other a couple of times. I think the feeling is mutual, but it hasn't gone any farther than eye contact. He was gone for about a week and I'm getting ready to leave to go out of town for a week and a half. I kind of hope we can at least talk before I leave so he won't lose interest. I'm very shy around guys and kind of wish he would approach me but I might could start a light conversation. I usually work with at least one other girl and I've seen him there with another guy. I know that sometimes it's hard to approach someone when they are around other people or when one of your friends is with you. What should I do? Please help!How to talk to someone you like at the gym...?
It's much easier for a girl to approach a guy in a gym. An easy way for a girl to do it (I really don't mean this offensively, like you're inept or anything because it really does work) is to ask the guy for help with some equipment, and then strike up a conversation once he's done by introducing yourself, and go from there. If he's not interested, then he won't linger around for more conversation. If he is, he'll stay and talk. Speaking from a guy's point of view, I don't like approaching girls in a gym because I feel like girls go to the gym to work out, not to be hit on.
If all else fails, just walk up to him (when he's not busy exercising, like while he's transitioning between exercises or at the water fountain), tell him you've seen him around the gym, introduce yourself and see where that goes. I really doubt he'll think you're creepy, unless you normally come off that way when you talk to people.How to talk to someone you like at the gym...?
Well, your situation is quite easy actually.
If you talk to a guy at the Gym, his self-confidence goes way up, you don't need to compliment him on how much he is lifting, or how strong he is, just a simple conversation is perfect.
Maybe ask him how a machine works and try to get him to explain it.
It is a little more difficult if he has another friend, but maybe your friend can help you out to talk to his, then that would be perfect.
Easy! Your at a gym so just go up to him and ask him to help you on a machine or your form or something. The key is however, to let him know that you don't really care how to use the machine or your form without actually tell him. So when he is showing you how to use the machine, just look him in the eye and make contact. Don't be freaky however!
You will regret it if you never try. Trust me.
run into him and act like it was an accident then talk to him, if it goes good ask him out.
you could also talk to him about how much he bench pressed or dead lifted or something like that then make it sound like its a lot even if its not.
do not do both. pick one and try it. if he says no than don't try the other one. just leave him
his lost, right?
If at all possible, get on a treadmill next to him, get his attention, then get off the machine. it doesn't have to be a treadmill, of course, just something next to him. as you are leaving, give him your number, with a note that says something like ';call me later ;)';. there doesn't have to be any words exchanged at all. if he's interested, he'll call that night.
most importantly, just be confident and go for it. guys like that. also, as long as he is in moderately into working out, any guy would lovee to help out a cute girl on any work out, even if you know how to do it already, just ask. act like you kinda know what your doing but not to good, which is why you need the help. itll work trust me
u should find a weight machine u dont kno how to use and ask him for help...and he will assist u,,,and then thats how u start a conversation
you -';yeah i need to get into shape b4 i leave in a few day';
him';oh really where u headed?'; blah blah blah
Try and approach him while he is getting a drink
of water and taking a minute to cool off.
Just be yourself!
Get your flirt on girl and have fun with it!
Try and notice on how he reacts to your flirty comments
and if your feelng bold, ask him out!
Whats the worst that can happen?
Good luck. :]%26lt;3
tell him if he can give you some tips on working out. and help demonstrate it and you do it yourself and if you get it incorrect. Then he will touch whatever part of your body to fix the posture or whatever. Then after you say thanks just talk about whatever.
Hope this helps
slip him a note.
if he likes u an u like him slip him a note to avoid talking about it.
then he will come up to u and talk to u about it and if doesent put it down ask him out. hope this helps.
Just ask him wheres... Make something up on that... Then after that say hi my name is_____ and he'll probably tell you his name and then you start talking... If that doesn't work go up to him only in your bra and panties and you'll get his attention lol
when he's exercising, then go to the machine next to him. kinda act shy when you ask for his number, and if he takes off his earphones then he's interested in talking to you
Just find a time when no one is around except you two and go up to him and make a joke or complement his muscles :P. He should say something, and just take it from there.
okay.. people usually dont want to be approached at the gym because they are there to workout, not to make friends. wait til he approaches you. If its mutual, then he will. If he isnt interested then he wont.
you could walk past him when hes working out and maybe say wow impressive how much are you lifting and try to start a conversation
Say ';I saw this exercise in a magazine. Will you watch to make sure I'm doing it right?''; or ';will you ';spot'; me for this exercise?'; or ';do you know any good ..leg...arm..ab..(whatever) exercises';
Ask him to help you on an exercise
OK this is what you do
Go up tell him hey i need help with this exercise. or ask him for spot when your benching. it will work. guys love it. trust me i do
talk about exercising and better yet, which muscles ache, and why
just be natural try starting a conversation learn wat he likes and when your in a gym try wearing something sexy tat will make it more likely to ask you out
Well if you were playing just say baseball and your team was waiting to bat and he was standing near you i would go over there and like make comments about how well the team is doing that may work!
Ok So How Old Are You.?You can act cool:)
Next time you see him ask if he'd like to go for coffee/tea/juice/smoothie/etc sometime after working out. It makes it really casual and doesn't ask him to commit to a date right away.
Tell him you'd like to ';PUMP...him up';
start talking about the machine
compliment his muscles. and then talk to him about them, like how much weight can he lift, and what does he eat.
Say hey are you using this machine if he is standing by it and he will say yes or no and then make conversation from there. like how long have you been working out here? am i doing this exercise right, etc.
dont try to talk to him while he's working out. that is so annoying!
ask him for help on something he is using and gethim to show you how to do something. men like feeling smart.
This is hard to answer, I can't tell what your scenerio looks like but the best thing to do is to have some confidence, go to him and compliment him, say'; nice guns, your really passionate about sculptures' he will most likely answer from then let it flow, smile listen to his chatter. ask him question related to his activity. Most guys are shy so the best way they overcome this is by not thinking of what the other thinks of them and by lowering that strong desire a feeling they have for that person they have at first in order to easily approach and initiate a conversation. Use the same tactic if he's alone and u will be much confortable with talking to him. Its Ok to tell him ';your kinda shy talking to stranger';, im sure he will laugh but not as mockery but will surely appreciate. I cant imagine any cold hearted dude that'l turn that down. Dont expect him to really be enthusiastic about it so dont keep ur hopes up either. But i m sure hell be eager to talk to you just have some confidence.
wait until he goes to the drinking fountain or gets a towel or something. Stand behind him and when he is done he will turn around. Smile at him.
Obviously it's wierd to talk to some random person at a gym, because a lot of people like to go to the gym and just be in a zone... So you never know if someone would find it wierd or not.. but... does he have a tattoo or anything original? Those are super easy and not at all awkward conversation starters.......... or maybe in the parking lot...
don't EVER act like a stalker though!short hair cuts norton internet security 2008
It's much easier for a girl to approach a guy in a gym. An easy way for a girl to do it (I really don't mean this offensively, like you're inept or anything because it really does work) is to ask the guy for help with some equipment, and then strike up a conversation once he's done by introducing yourself, and go from there. If he's not interested, then he won't linger around for more conversation. If he is, he'll stay and talk. Speaking from a guy's point of view, I don't like approaching girls in a gym because I feel like girls go to the gym to work out, not to be hit on.
If all else fails, just walk up to him (when he's not busy exercising, like while he's transitioning between exercises or at the water fountain), tell him you've seen him around the gym, introduce yourself and see where that goes. I really doubt he'll think you're creepy, unless you normally come off that way when you talk to people.How to talk to someone you like at the gym...?
Well, your situation is quite easy actually.
If you talk to a guy at the Gym, his self-confidence goes way up, you don't need to compliment him on how much he is lifting, or how strong he is, just a simple conversation is perfect.
Maybe ask him how a machine works and try to get him to explain it.
It is a little more difficult if he has another friend, but maybe your friend can help you out to talk to his, then that would be perfect.
Easy! Your at a gym so just go up to him and ask him to help you on a machine or your form or something. The key is however, to let him know that you don't really care how to use the machine or your form without actually tell him. So when he is showing you how to use the machine, just look him in the eye and make contact. Don't be freaky however!
You will regret it if you never try. Trust me.
run into him and act like it was an accident then talk to him, if it goes good ask him out.
you could also talk to him about how much he bench pressed or dead lifted or something like that then make it sound like its a lot even if its not.
do not do both. pick one and try it. if he says no than don't try the other one. just leave him
his lost, right?
If at all possible, get on a treadmill next to him, get his attention, then get off the machine. it doesn't have to be a treadmill, of course, just something next to him. as you are leaving, give him your number, with a note that says something like ';call me later ;)';. there doesn't have to be any words exchanged at all. if he's interested, he'll call that night.
most importantly, just be confident and go for it. guys like that. also, as long as he is in moderately into working out, any guy would lovee to help out a cute girl on any work out, even if you know how to do it already, just ask. act like you kinda know what your doing but not to good, which is why you need the help. itll work trust me
u should find a weight machine u dont kno how to use and ask him for help...and he will assist u,,,and then thats how u start a conversation
you -';yeah i need to get into shape b4 i leave in a few day';
him';oh really where u headed?'; blah blah blah
Try and approach him while he is getting a drink
of water and taking a minute to cool off.
Just be yourself!
Get your flirt on girl and have fun with it!
Try and notice on how he reacts to your flirty comments
and if your feelng bold, ask him out!
Whats the worst that can happen?
Good luck. :]%26lt;3
tell him if he can give you some tips on working out. and help demonstrate it and you do it yourself and if you get it incorrect. Then he will touch whatever part of your body to fix the posture or whatever. Then after you say thanks just talk about whatever.
Hope this helps
slip him a note.
if he likes u an u like him slip him a note to avoid talking about it.
then he will come up to u and talk to u about it and if doesent put it down ask him out. hope this helps.
Just ask him wheres... Make something up on that... Then after that say hi my name is_____ and he'll probably tell you his name and then you start talking... If that doesn't work go up to him only in your bra and panties and you'll get his attention lol
when he's exercising, then go to the machine next to him. kinda act shy when you ask for his number, and if he takes off his earphones then he's interested in talking to you
Just find a time when no one is around except you two and go up to him and make a joke or complement his muscles :P. He should say something, and just take it from there.
okay.. people usually dont want to be approached at the gym because they are there to workout, not to make friends. wait til he approaches you. If its mutual, then he will. If he isnt interested then he wont.
you could walk past him when hes working out and maybe say wow impressive how much are you lifting and try to start a conversation
Say ';I saw this exercise in a magazine. Will you watch to make sure I'm doing it right?''; or ';will you ';spot'; me for this exercise?'; or ';do you know any good ..leg...arm..ab..(whatever) exercises';
Ask him to help you on an exercise
OK this is what you do
Go up tell him hey i need help with this exercise. or ask him for spot when your benching. it will work. guys love it. trust me i do
talk about exercising and better yet, which muscles ache, and why
just be natural try starting a conversation learn wat he likes and when your in a gym try wearing something sexy tat will make it more likely to ask you out
Well if you were playing just say baseball and your team was waiting to bat and he was standing near you i would go over there and like make comments about how well the team is doing that may work!
Ok So How Old Are You.?You can act cool:)
Next time you see him ask if he'd like to go for coffee/tea/juice/smoothie/etc sometime after working out. It makes it really casual and doesn't ask him to commit to a date right away.
Tell him you'd like to ';PUMP...him up';
start talking about the machine
compliment his muscles. and then talk to him about them, like how much weight can he lift, and what does he eat.
Say hey are you using this machine if he is standing by it and he will say yes or no and then make conversation from there. like how long have you been working out here? am i doing this exercise right, etc.
dont try to talk to him while he's working out. that is so annoying!
ask him for help on something he is using and gethim to show you how to do something. men like feeling smart.
This is hard to answer, I can't tell what your scenerio looks like but the best thing to do is to have some confidence, go to him and compliment him, say'; nice guns, your really passionate about sculptures' he will most likely answer from then let it flow, smile listen to his chatter. ask him question related to his activity. Most guys are shy so the best way they overcome this is by not thinking of what the other thinks of them and by lowering that strong desire a feeling they have for that person they have at first in order to easily approach and initiate a conversation. Use the same tactic if he's alone and u will be much confortable with talking to him. Its Ok to tell him ';your kinda shy talking to stranger';, im sure he will laugh but not as mockery but will surely appreciate. I cant imagine any cold hearted dude that'l turn that down. Dont expect him to really be enthusiastic about it so dont keep ur hopes up either. But i m sure hell be eager to talk to you just have some confidence.
wait until he goes to the drinking fountain or gets a towel or something. Stand behind him and when he is done he will turn around. Smile at him.
Obviously it's wierd to talk to some random person at a gym, because a lot of people like to go to the gym and just be in a zone... So you never know if someone would find it wierd or not.. but... does he have a tattoo or anything original? Those are super easy and not at all awkward conversation starters.......... or maybe in the parking lot...
don't EVER act like a stalker though!
How to talk to him...?
Hi...So I know this probably sounds pretty pathetic and you guys have probably read a million of these, but here is the story. So there is this guy and i have the biggest crush on him (I don't like him..I just think he's gorgeous :) ), but the thing is i have never met him. He goes to my university and he accepted my request on Facebook a couple of months ago.. but i don't have the courage to talk to him like at all! How do I start up a conversation with him? What do I say if he's like uh Who is this?? Thanks in advance for all your help :)
-LivHow to talk to him...?
Hm. If he has a funny status on Facebook maybe bring it up when you see him. Or, if his status is like: ';studying for _____'; possibly ask him how he did on that.
-LivHow to talk to him...?
Hm. If he has a funny status on Facebook maybe bring it up when you see him. Or, if his status is like: ';studying for _____'; possibly ask him how he did on that.
Boy problems..advice?
I just got out of a serious relationship(that was 2 years long) about 2 and half months ago..I moved to a new city for school. I met some guys..and one guy say his name is Tony.. we were becoming close friends, talking lots (he had a gf at this point). I would talk to him about my ex problems, since we were trying to work things out but it was hard, and his gf problems since they were not going very well. i started to have a crush, and i told my friend Matt, and he ended up telling Tony, but he didnt say anything to me..one night me and Matt hung out late in his dorm and he like tried to kiss me and stuff but i didnt want to, but everyone thought we did stuff...so a couple nights later Tony isl ike..so i hear you had fun with Matt..and im like nothing happened..and hes well its weird i heard you liked me..and i said i did, until you started being mean (we were more flirtatious before, then i guess it was still flirting but bugging me more, so my crush started to go away)..and hes really! i will stop being mean..and the conversation continued and he said he liked me..but he didnt really want to tell me since he has a gf and nothing could happen..so im like yea its ok i understand..and then a week later they break up..and we still are just friends..but then the next week we all are drinking..he trys to kiss me and im like no, you are not ready to kiss me, you just broke up with your gf..then later we have both drank a lot more..and we end up kissing..and next thing i know we are in bed together, and at one point he said ';you dont know how long ive wanted to do this'; which kind of made me feel happy..next morning didnt seem awkward..but later he said, i want to tell you i love my gf..and i said yea i know that, i completely understand, im not expecting anything to happen..and hes like ok good im glad you understand i was scared you would be upset..anyway...so now its been like a month, and hes still kind of awkward. like im just trying to be friends, like im not sure if he likes me or not, but i know he wont act on it again unless hes seriously ready to, and i dont really feel like i like him anymore since hes become awkard..so some days we can talk other days we dont and he seems weird..so how do i make him see im not interested and just want to be friends, and be able to talk to him like we used to? he was a really good friend and i miss that. also my period is late a week and a half..should i tell him that..or just if i do turn out to be pregnant..i know i would get an abortion..should i tell him at all? would it make it more awkward if i told him? advice on the whole situation please. i would like him again if he started showing he was interested...but im not concerned about that, i more just want to go back to being good friends..haha sorry this is such a long storyBoy problems..advice?
i would wait to tell him that your period is late. that might make him totally flip out for no reason if it happens to be a false alarm. dont say anything until your SURE. then its up to you if you want to tell him your getting an abortion.
as for your relatioship with him.. i would become good friends again, and then see what happens in the future.scene hair
i would wait to tell him that your period is late. that might make him totally flip out for no reason if it happens to be a false alarm. dont say anything until your SURE. then its up to you if you want to tell him your getting an abortion.
as for your relatioship with him.. i would become good friends again, and then see what happens in the future.
He's heart broken, I NEED your help!?
This guy at my work asked me ';What are you doing this weekend?'; ( We are good work buddies) I told him(after I got the hint that he was asking me out) ';I have many things to do, I have to read Pride and Prejudice, then Othello and write essays on both of them, including my government project. So I will be very busy all weekend.'; All he said was ';oh.'; Then the next two days after that incident, he limited our conversations to ';hey'; and ';bye.'; He still smiles when he says those words. Why did he limit conversations? Will he ever start talking to me regularly like he used to? Have I broken his spirit? : ( I just don't want a guy in my life right now, I'm 17 and he's 21, and all I am focusing on is finishing high school and going to college. He also is going to go to college. He's a really nice guy, too nice actually, but I can't focus on guys and school at the same time. The last thing I would want to do is hurt someone's feelings and I feel like I totally crushed his being. : ( I never flirt with him, I just talk casually to him about colleges and classes. He knows that I have a busy schedule and that's why he asked me for my weekend. Plus, my parents would kill me if they found out I had a guy.
I've never had this problem happen to me. I have never had a guy ask me out. (Apparently I am intimidating, but I don't know what to do in this situation??)
Do I talk to him about this problem? How and where should I talk to him? At work or outside of the workplace(right outside the door of the building)? What do I say? I want a friendly relationship like there was before.He's heart broken, I NEED your help!?
He can't accept that anyone rejected him, let him be. You made a mosquito out of a lion, he'll get used to feeling smaller than before.
Tell him that you just can't do such things right now and maybe he's ego returns to it's former glory.He's heart broken, I NEED your help!?
just make small talk one day and feel out the situation
I've never had this problem happen to me. I have never had a guy ask me out. (Apparently I am intimidating, but I don't know what to do in this situation??)
Do I talk to him about this problem? How and where should I talk to him? At work or outside of the workplace(right outside the door of the building)? What do I say? I want a friendly relationship like there was before.He's heart broken, I NEED your help!?
He can't accept that anyone rejected him, let him be. You made a mosquito out of a lion, he'll get used to feeling smaller than before.
Tell him that you just can't do such things right now and maybe he's ego returns to it's former glory.He's heart broken, I NEED your help!?
just make small talk one day and feel out the situation
How to get rid of your best friend's anoying female stalker.?
A few days ago this girl who is stalking my friend started to sit with us, and she annoys me. She wont shut up. My best friend has even taken up reading during lunch to not have to listen to her, as a result she wont stop talking to me. Every time I hug him she's like ';wheres my hug?';. Its funny cause i also hug my other friends. At this point it is important to note that i sit with mostly guys with the exeption of another friend's girlfriend and the stalker. To get rid of her I initiated a perverted conversation with my friends considering that most girls do not like it when guys talk about boobs, we also mentioned the penis festival in japan. It didn't work. Every one I sit with is dying to be rid of her. She has the maturity of a five year old, and she is so ovious about her pathetic little crush. My friend has zero interest in her since she is not even semi atractive and very weird. Its not just him and me that is annoyed. Please list down multiple options so that we may rid ourselves of her.How to get rid of your best friend's anoying female stalker.?
Ever try ASKING her to leave?
It's simple. People will know that they're not wanted when you tell them. Don't say outright ';We don't like you since you're a weirdo, and we want you to go away.'; That would just be incredibly rude. Have your friend confront her. If he's the only reason why she's hanging around you, then if he should try to solve it. Have him say something along these lines ';Hey, I notice you hang out with us a lot. I think you're a really nice girl, but I already have a girlfriend, and she might get mad at me if she sees you around. '; Tell him to be gentle though. It's never good to hear the person you like is with another person (even if he's not).
But if she's really trying to befriend you ALL then you guys should talk to her. Like I said, no matter how much you dislike her, try to be nice. Lie if you have to. Something like ';Hey, we think you're cool and all, but we're already a group, and we're kinda like family to each other. Our group is already tight so we don't really need another person in it, and when we talk it's kinda a private thing between us, so would you mind leaving us alone for a while?';
If she doesn't get the picture after that, you simply have to ignore her. Although it may be more satisfying to chase her off and do something mean, it won't end well since it'll make all of you look bad.
Good luckHow to get rid of your best friend's anoying female stalker.?
this is my plan for you:
ask your friend if it's okay to use him as a bait for the girl to follow him around.
when that's agreed upon, have a way of finding the girl then follow her as she stalks you friend
bring a videocam with then video her while she stalks your friend
follow this girl until she goes home
* BTW - where some disguises and be cautious because if she sensed you things might go the other way around
now plan an approach, on how you'll inform somebody from her household that she's stalking your friend; show your video for some proofs
your lucky if its her parents who came on the door when finally decided to end the craze
then start your conversation and favors
*be careful in saying some words to avoid misunderstandings
HTH :D
OMG thrt happend to me she even invited herself to my b day part but dint know where I live(lol)
butt I just made a code name for her and stard trash talking about her with her not knowing it and thn told her all the girls problem then afte aweek told her it was her code name
Ever try ASKING her to leave?
It's simple. People will know that they're not wanted when you tell them. Don't say outright ';We don't like you since you're a weirdo, and we want you to go away.'; That would just be incredibly rude. Have your friend confront her. If he's the only reason why she's hanging around you, then if he should try to solve it. Have him say something along these lines ';Hey, I notice you hang out with us a lot. I think you're a really nice girl, but I already have a girlfriend, and she might get mad at me if she sees you around. '; Tell him to be gentle though. It's never good to hear the person you like is with another person (even if he's not).
But if she's really trying to befriend you ALL then you guys should talk to her. Like I said, no matter how much you dislike her, try to be nice. Lie if you have to. Something like ';Hey, we think you're cool and all, but we're already a group, and we're kinda like family to each other. Our group is already tight so we don't really need another person in it, and when we talk it's kinda a private thing between us, so would you mind leaving us alone for a while?';
If she doesn't get the picture after that, you simply have to ignore her. Although it may be more satisfying to chase her off and do something mean, it won't end well since it'll make all of you look bad.
Good luckHow to get rid of your best friend's anoying female stalker.?
this is my plan for you:
ask your friend if it's okay to use him as a bait for the girl to follow him around.
when that's agreed upon, have a way of finding the girl then follow her as she stalks you friend
bring a videocam with then video her while she stalks your friend
follow this girl until she goes home
* BTW - where some disguises and be cautious because if she sensed you things might go the other way around
now plan an approach, on how you'll inform somebody from her household that she's stalking your friend; show your video for some proofs
your lucky if its her parents who came on the door when finally decided to end the craze
then start your conversation and favors
*be careful in saying some words to avoid misunderstandings
HTH :D
OMG thrt happend to me she even invited herself to my b day part but dint know where I live(lol)
butt I just made a code name for her and stard trash talking about her with her not knowing it and thn told her all the girls problem then afte aweek told her it was her code name
I'm Rusty when it comes to dating, Advice Please?
I'm a Cashier and a grocery store..
There is a new guy that works in produce..He's pretty new, I'll say he's been there 2 months..
For some reason I think he's so cute, he's sort of nerdy looking he looks like a 1960's school teacher lol.. With the dark brown hair, eyes, and glasses..
I've never talked to him really, except for hello and thanks, and that's when he came through my line before.. I don't know how to start up a conversation with him.. I told a few coworkers/Friends I trust about my crush.. One of them offered to let him know when I'm ready to tell him.
How Can I talk to this person? I found out he's 25 and I'm 26... But I don't know how to find out if he has a gf or not.. I haven't dated since 2005, I'm rusty and don't know how to flirt or anything anymore..
His cousin started working at the store also.. He's a packer, he doesn't seem very approachable to me so I don't I'll get any info out of him..
I haven't had a crush on anyone in a really long time.. Don't know how to pursue anything.
Please give me your advice!I'm Rusty when it comes to dating, Advice Please?
with a name like ';this is twilight time'; I am not surprised.I'm Rusty when it comes to dating, Advice Please?
Go to the toilet take a picture of the goods and text it to him. If he likes what he sees youll get a date. Good Luck!!!
There is a new guy that works in produce..He's pretty new, I'll say he's been there 2 months..
For some reason I think he's so cute, he's sort of nerdy looking he looks like a 1960's school teacher lol.. With the dark brown hair, eyes, and glasses..
I've never talked to him really, except for hello and thanks, and that's when he came through my line before.. I don't know how to start up a conversation with him.. I told a few coworkers/Friends I trust about my crush.. One of them offered to let him know when I'm ready to tell him.
How Can I talk to this person? I found out he's 25 and I'm 26... But I don't know how to find out if he has a gf or not.. I haven't dated since 2005, I'm rusty and don't know how to flirt or anything anymore..
His cousin started working at the store also.. He's a packer, he doesn't seem very approachable to me so I don't I'll get any info out of him..
I haven't had a crush on anyone in a really long time.. Don't know how to pursue anything.
Please give me your advice!I'm Rusty when it comes to dating, Advice Please?
with a name like ';this is twilight time'; I am not surprised.I'm Rusty when it comes to dating, Advice Please?
Go to the toilet take a picture of the goods and text it to him. If he likes what he sees youll get a date. Good Luck!!!
How to Approach a guy Helllp!?
I'm a Cashier and a grocery store..
There is a new guy that works in produce..He's pretty new, I'll say he's been there 2 months..
For some reason I think he's so cute, he's sort of nerdy looking he looks like a 1960's school teacher lol.. With the dark brown hair, eyes, and glasses..
I've never talked to him really, except for hello and thanks, and that's when he came through my line before.. I don't know how to start up a conversation with him.. I told a few coworkers/Friends I trust about my crush.. One of them offered to let him know when I'm ready to tell him.
How Can I talk to this person? I found out he's 25 and I'm 26... But I don't know how to find out if he has a gf or not.. I haven't dated since 2005, I'm rusty and don't know how to flirt or anything anymore..
His cousin started working at the store also.. He's a packer, he doesn't seem very approachable to me so I don't I'll get any info out of him..
I haven't had a crush on anyone in a really long time.. Don't know how to pursue anything.
Please give me your advice!How to Approach a guy Helllp!?
Go talk to him..get out of the cage!! :)
There is a new guy that works in produce..He's pretty new, I'll say he's been there 2 months..
For some reason I think he's so cute, he's sort of nerdy looking he looks like a 1960's school teacher lol.. With the dark brown hair, eyes, and glasses..
I've never talked to him really, except for hello and thanks, and that's when he came through my line before.. I don't know how to start up a conversation with him.. I told a few coworkers/Friends I trust about my crush.. One of them offered to let him know when I'm ready to tell him.
How Can I talk to this person? I found out he's 25 and I'm 26... But I don't know how to find out if he has a gf or not.. I haven't dated since 2005, I'm rusty and don't know how to flirt or anything anymore..
His cousin started working at the store also.. He's a packer, he doesn't seem very approachable to me so I don't I'll get any info out of him..
I haven't had a crush on anyone in a really long time.. Don't know how to pursue anything.
Please give me your advice!How to Approach a guy Helllp!?
Go talk to him..get out of the cage!! :)
How Do I talk to him/Find out if he has a girlfriend?
I'm a Cashier and a grocery store..
There is a new guy that works in produce..He's pretty new, I'll say he's been there 2 months..
For some reason I think he's so cute, he's sort of nerdy looking he looks like a 1960's school teacher lol.. With the dark brown hair, eyes, and glasses..
I've never talked to him really, except for hello and thanks, and that's when he came through my line before.. I don't know how to start up a conversation with him.. I told a few coworkers/Friends I trust about my crush.. One of them offered to let him know when I'm ready to tell him.
How Can I talk to this person? I found out he's 25 and I'm 26... But I don't know how to find out if he has a gf or not.. I haven't dated since 2005, I'm rusty and don't know how to flirt or anything anymore..
His cousin started working at the store also.. He's a packer, he doesn't seem very approachable to me so I don't I'll get any info out of him..
I haven't had a crush on anyone in a really long time.. Don't know how to pursue anything.
Please give me your advice!How Do I talk to him/Find out if he has a girlfriend?
Talk to him like you talk to anyone else. Talk about anything, observe your surroundings.
I always ask people about what school they're going to, and if they like it. If not in school, how do they like working at the job? Was it better or worse than other jobs?
To find out if he has a gf or not, honestly you just ask but slide it in there somewhere. If you're brave enough, compliment him on his looks.
One line I always use to find out if a girl is single is simply,
';You're awfully cute, you're not single are you?';
And she'll say either yes or no... and there you go.How Do I talk to him/Find out if he has a girlfriend?
STAR. I want to know this too. I have a situation very similar. The most I've been able to come up with is get up the courage and ask him if he has a girlfriend, or maybe ask him if he would like to get lunch sometime. But those just don't seem right. I've even thought about maybe letting his friend (that's a girl) know that I like him, so maybe she'll be a blabber mouth and tell him. That way if he likes me, he'll do something about it.
But in my situation, we don't work together. I just see him everyday at a coffee shop I go by all the time. That's pretty cool that you work by him though, that's more opportunities to find out about him.
There is a new guy that works in produce..He's pretty new, I'll say he's been there 2 months..
For some reason I think he's so cute, he's sort of nerdy looking he looks like a 1960's school teacher lol.. With the dark brown hair, eyes, and glasses..
I've never talked to him really, except for hello and thanks, and that's when he came through my line before.. I don't know how to start up a conversation with him.. I told a few coworkers/Friends I trust about my crush.. One of them offered to let him know when I'm ready to tell him.
How Can I talk to this person? I found out he's 25 and I'm 26... But I don't know how to find out if he has a gf or not.. I haven't dated since 2005, I'm rusty and don't know how to flirt or anything anymore..
His cousin started working at the store also.. He's a packer, he doesn't seem very approachable to me so I don't I'll get any info out of him..
I haven't had a crush on anyone in a really long time.. Don't know how to pursue anything.
Please give me your advice!How Do I talk to him/Find out if he has a girlfriend?
Talk to him like you talk to anyone else. Talk about anything, observe your surroundings.
I always ask people about what school they're going to, and if they like it. If not in school, how do they like working at the job? Was it better or worse than other jobs?
To find out if he has a gf or not, honestly you just ask but slide it in there somewhere. If you're brave enough, compliment him on his looks.
One line I always use to find out if a girl is single is simply,
';You're awfully cute, you're not single are you?';
And she'll say either yes or no... and there you go.How Do I talk to him/Find out if he has a girlfriend?
STAR. I want to know this too. I have a situation very similar. The most I've been able to come up with is get up the courage and ask him if he has a girlfriend, or maybe ask him if he would like to get lunch sometime. But those just don't seem right. I've even thought about maybe letting his friend (that's a girl) know that I like him, so maybe she'll be a blabber mouth and tell him. That way if he likes me, he'll do something about it.
But in my situation, we don't work together. I just see him everyday at a coffee shop I go by all the time. That's pretty cool that you work by him though, that's more opportunities to find out about him.
What would you do in this situation?
I'm a Cashier and a grocery store..
There is a new guy that works in produce..He's pretty new, I'll say he's been there 2 months..
For some reason I think he's so cute, he's sort of nerdy looking he looks like a 1960's school teacher lol.. With the dark brown hair, eyes, and glasses..
I've never talked to him really, except for hello and thanks, and that's when he came through my line before.. I don't know how to start up a conversation with him.. I told a few coworkers/Friends I trust about my crush.. One of them offered to let him know when I'm ready to tell him.
How Can I talk to this person? I found out he's 25 and I'm 26... But I don't know how to find out if he has a gf or not.. I haven't dated since 2005, I'm rusty and don't know how to flirt or anything anymore..
His cousin started working at the store also.. He's a packer, he doesn't seem very approachable to me so I don't I'll get any info out of him..
I haven't had a crush on anyone in a really long time.. Don't know how to pursue anything.
Please give me your advice!What would you do in this situation?
well seeing as you work in a grocery store, i am sure there are a few people that go out and hang, if not then get some of the crew together and invite him, that is the easiest wayWhat would you do in this situation?
get brave and talk to him. ask him if he would like to have lunch one day. this way he maybe will let you know if he has a girl friend or not. or plan a small get together at home and ask him over. tell him to bring his girl friend and wait and see if he does. tell others to have dates also. maybe this way someone in the store will hear him talk about the small gathering in some way and find out if has a girlfriend.good luck
heres wat i would do. the next time you see him alone like eatn lunch or something, and u have time, sit next to him n say hi, then say somethig like ';ugh...busy day'; n maybe just maybe u can start a conversation.then like at the end of that kinda ask him like so where r u from n stuff like that n u mite find out that u guys have some stuff in common.then like at the end kinda say ';we should go hang out sometimes and get some coffe'; or something.then ull end up becoming friends, and itll be easier to talk to him.
i hope i helped^^
just say hi to him and ask him questions about himself and strike up a conversation. if it goes well, ask him out.
Well first off merely ask him or tell him how you feel, but if you like me and a little too shy to do that try pretending to be clumsy and ';accidently'; drop something when he's looking or is right next to you and if its some thing big and heavy he might try to help you and that i think is a great ice breaker!!
Good Luck and God Bless!!!
make up some excuse to talk to him. then try to start a conversation with him. then say something like ';so wat r u doing next weekend?'; if hes free offer to go to the movies or something. this is a great way 2 get info outa him, cause u never know if on that weekend he might have a date with someone else
I would say just be yourself, smile or ask him to lunch on a lunch break or something. compliment his glasses or something. 1 year won't make any difference, and the best way to gain confidence is a fling/romance. Good luck!! :)
No offense, but you're CRAZY! Here's what you do, tell Napolean Dynamite your feelings, but make it look like a complete accident, as if it just sorta sliped out. Don't just walk over to him %26amp; tell him ';hey man, I like you';, but do tell him something like this, ';Yea, so someone started a rumor that I liked you.....Of course, they'd feel like a moron, if they were to find out that the rumor were true.'; Or something along the lines of that.
There is a new guy that works in produce..He's pretty new, I'll say he's been there 2 months..
For some reason I think he's so cute, he's sort of nerdy looking he looks like a 1960's school teacher lol.. With the dark brown hair, eyes, and glasses..
I've never talked to him really, except for hello and thanks, and that's when he came through my line before.. I don't know how to start up a conversation with him.. I told a few coworkers/Friends I trust about my crush.. One of them offered to let him know when I'm ready to tell him.
How Can I talk to this person? I found out he's 25 and I'm 26... But I don't know how to find out if he has a gf or not.. I haven't dated since 2005, I'm rusty and don't know how to flirt or anything anymore..
His cousin started working at the store also.. He's a packer, he doesn't seem very approachable to me so I don't I'll get any info out of him..
I haven't had a crush on anyone in a really long time.. Don't know how to pursue anything.
Please give me your advice!What would you do in this situation?
well seeing as you work in a grocery store, i am sure there are a few people that go out and hang, if not then get some of the crew together and invite him, that is the easiest wayWhat would you do in this situation?
get brave and talk to him. ask him if he would like to have lunch one day. this way he maybe will let you know if he has a girl friend or not. or plan a small get together at home and ask him over. tell him to bring his girl friend and wait and see if he does. tell others to have dates also. maybe this way someone in the store will hear him talk about the small gathering in some way and find out if has a girlfriend.good luck
heres wat i would do. the next time you see him alone like eatn lunch or something, and u have time, sit next to him n say hi, then say somethig like ';ugh...busy day'; n maybe just maybe u can start a conversation.then like at the end of that kinda ask him like so where r u from n stuff like that n u mite find out that u guys have some stuff in common.then like at the end kinda say ';we should go hang out sometimes and get some coffe'; or something.then ull end up becoming friends, and itll be easier to talk to him.
i hope i helped^^
just say hi to him and ask him questions about himself and strike up a conversation. if it goes well, ask him out.
Well first off merely ask him or tell him how you feel, but if you like me and a little too shy to do that try pretending to be clumsy and ';accidently'; drop something when he's looking or is right next to you and if its some thing big and heavy he might try to help you and that i think is a great ice breaker!!
Good Luck and God Bless!!!
make up some excuse to talk to him. then try to start a conversation with him. then say something like ';so wat r u doing next weekend?'; if hes free offer to go to the movies or something. this is a great way 2 get info outa him, cause u never know if on that weekend he might have a date with someone else
I would say just be yourself, smile or ask him to lunch on a lunch break or something. compliment his glasses or something. 1 year won't make any difference, and the best way to gain confidence is a fling/romance. Good luck!! :)
No offense, but you're CRAZY! Here's what you do, tell Napolean Dynamite your feelings, but make it look like a complete accident, as if it just sorta sliped out. Don't just walk over to him %26amp; tell him ';hey man, I like you';, but do tell him something like this, ';Yea, so someone started a rumor that I liked you.....Of course, they'd feel like a moron, if they were to find out that the rumor were true.'; Or something along the lines of that.
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