I gave it to her 2 weeks ago and when I saw her the next day she didn't say anything about it. But she was receptive she gave me a big smile and I was too stupid to do nothing. I was kinda down that day and really didn't feel like talking. Anyways I didn't tease her back or flirt with her back because she has a boyfriend. I played it cool and kinda ignore her I just wasn't in the mood to talk. And she knew that. Anyways she thought I lost interest in her so she said ';You don't like me anymore'; and walk away fast and look back at me and smile at me.When she said that I knew she kinda like me. She knows I still like her, but she has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend makes her come into work crying sometimes. I don't know why she stays with him, but she does. Anyways she didn't say anything about the letter still. She show all her co-worker friends the letter and told them I like her. She never told them that she likes me. I gave her a christmas present. It was a glass angel. I also wrote a note to her this is what it said. ';If I could talk to angels, I'd ask the one who watches over you to make sure you always know how much you mean to me and how much your kindness has touched my heart. May you be blessed by the Lord. The maker of heaven and earth. May he watch over you and bless you with good health and happiness always. You're a wonderful person and a very special friend and today just seemed like a good time to tell you so. This gift is the angel of friendship. She reminds me of you. I hope you have the best christmas you ever had. I hope you are well and smiling. She was about to cry after she read it. I told her not to and she gave me a hug and that was it. She talk to friend and he told me what she said. ';Well she like it, but she didn't want it because her boyfriend would be so mad at her for accepting it.'; She didn't give it back to me, she left it in the front office and told the manager about the situation. She told him that I like her and treat her different than other girl employees and she feels uncomfortable around me. And told the manager she just wants to be friends with me. She did keep it after she clock out of work. So this past wednesday I was walking near her and the manager and she thought I was walking towards her, but I wasn't she walk away pretty fast in a different direction. So we both ignore each other that night. And havn't seen each other since. Her coworker friend said she talks about me, but nothing negative. I think the manager question her about the angel when she brought it in the office and that's why she told him. Were both in our late teens. Some of the girls that work there are jealous of her. I guess it's because the manager saids to the other girls ';If there were more girls like her are business would be alot better.'; He said that because she is really nice to the customers.
She flirts with customers at work. But, aren't all girls like that and don't mean anything when they flirt with them. She doesn't do it alot just sometimes. I guess she does it because she see's the other girls doing it at work. The girls call her a s.l.u.t. and a w.h.o.r.e.
I haven't seen her at work in a week. The managers tried calling her, but she hasn't answer the phone. There thinking she quit. She miss three days so far. I go to school with her, but I haven't gone in 3-4 days, but i'm going tomorrow. Do you think she's testing me to see if I really care for her and wants me to chase her and tell her this tomorrow? What do you think? I really do like her. I'm so confuse hear are some of the answers I here earlier.
1. FROM Y2K---'; Dude go rescue her from her controlling boyfriend. She likes you go chase her. I think she scared of what her boyfriend might do to you. Fight him you can take him.';
2. FROM Dipti---'; let her go...she's not worth it, and she's taken';
3. FROM Roxy Girl--- '; i think you should tell her and not let the chance go by';
4. FROM The right thing--- '; way to complicated... don't go after her.... girl are like, the more u want them , the more they reject u.. and vice versa....
5. From Cheyb_92--- ';Ok, hun, that was so long I feel like I know you know, lol. Shew, complicated! Uh..........well I had a similar sit. i think, and this guy was always real nice to me and at the time i had a bf, but this guy told me he was gay, and then i was a lil more comfy round him u know, and then he bought me earrings and said that ive changed him, ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, totally freaked me out, I avoided this freak 4 weeks, and still do, but u seem sweet and non perverted like that guy, so main point, move on a lil, and see if shes really in 2 u, give her a lil time, and if she misses your companionship, then she'll let ya know, good luck, you seem sooo sweet, wish i was her......lol, the angel thing was deep, good job.
6. FROM noble_rub--- ';well, u have shown that you are the sweetest guy in the world. Give her some time. If she misses u, she'll come back.
Many situations that a girl still loves her bf, but cant help flirting with another guy because he treats her so good. Love is not all receiving nor giving. U should wait for her response. I believe what u have been doing is excellent job and i can see that u have thought a lot before make a move. Im sorry to mention, but if u are not good looking and her bf really is, then maybe she is still confused. Give her time to make her mind up.
You melt my heart. Never seen or heard anything like this in Hollywood movies. Good luck!
P.S: You deserve a lot more than just chasing a taken girl. Give her a chance. But its her loss if she is too dumb to understand.
7. FROM Cole S--- ';oh my goodness i say you should be there for her as a friend and if she accepts that you can be something more. Her boyfriend sounds like a jerk and obvestly she likes you. Its hard to say things to people, so maybe shes just at a loss for words. If your ment to be together than it will work out. Just be there for her
8. FROM Number on--- ';she wants you to chase her. the next time you see her, say something along the lines of ';wont your boyfriend let you come to work anymore?'; and see what she says.
9. FROM Kelly W--- think you should go for it. She needs someone better than that loser bf that she has. Tell her how you feel. Even if that does not go the way that you want it to go you will not have to keep wondering what could have been and you would know b/c you asked her. What harm could it do.
10. FROM meghanw1--- You said it a million times: she has a boyfriend!! Even if things are rocky between them it doesn't matter, you don't know the whole situation. Wait until she's single. Otherwise you'll just be her rebound or she'll just use you when she's going through a hard time and just hurt you. If things are meant to work out, they will. She knows you like her, let her decide. Don't write her letters or give her things at work, it'll get you in trouble. If she told the manager about you, it's a sign that she doesn't want to be bothered like that. She has a BOYFRIEND. Let it be. She's not testing you. She's messing with you. If she flirts with a lot of other guys, then how are you more special than any of them? Find someone that can commit 100%. You deserve it. She sounds like she has problems. Don't get involved, you'll get crushed. Sorry to be so negative. Just be patient.
11. FROM JB--- I'd be careful on this one, not because of the boyfriend. It was great you made your feelings known to her, but you don't want to overplay your hand. As much as I hate to say it, you have to play the game a little (for the record, I hate ';the game';). Work on the friendship aspect, and try to be comfortable about that for a while. Get her to talk about that **** of a boyfriend and be there to help open her eyes. Just don't push her too hard, and as much as it is flattering to her, it doesn't make you look any more attractive to her.
12. FROM LittleEFA---
I agree 100% with y2k. i think that she is in an abusive relationship that she is afraid to get out of!1! Maybe he has beaten her up and she is not going outside because he may have left bruises on her or something! Have one of your friends that know her to go and check on her to make sure she is okay and let her know how you feel. No woman deserves to be in an abusive or unhappy relationship whichever it may be in her case. Go and get her!!!!!! Good luck!!!!
13. FROM SarahBear--- Not to be mean, but creepy! I tell you what, I'm sure you're a nice guy and everything but love letters and love notes in Christmas presents are middle school! Or something you give your wife, but not someone you aren't dating. Honestly, she probably did have a small crush or physical attraction to you at first but as soon as all the creepy love notes started coming in it pushed her away. I know you probably only see her at work but you're reaching stalker status. Do you stare at her at work too - even if it's just an admiring 10 second stare and we act like we don't see it believe me we do! From your story she liked your attentions at first, even a little after the first note, but now she obviously doesn't. The fact that she showed and read your letter to other people is not a good sign either. And when she told her boss that you make her feel uncomfortable - she wasn't lying! You probably do! Back off buddy! You already ruined this one and pretty much any chance of getting with her. The fact that she already has a boyfriend takes your chance of redemption from zero to zilch. She's probably already told her boyfriend about you which is why she's not coming in to work. Unless she tells you from her own mouth that she likes you - any information from anyone else is worth nothing. Since she's been avoiding you since your Christmas present, that's obviously what she wants. I'm really not trying to be mean, just honest. You're probably just an emotional romantic guy but to bring it on all at once like that is overwhelming and not something a girl, especially a teenage girl, is looking for. Save the love notes until you find someone that openly admits that they like them or you're in a comitted relationship. As for this girl, leave her alone and act like you're over her - she'll probably be relieved and it'll take the pressure off of her - after awhile of ignoring her you might have a chance to apologize for making her feel uncomfortable. Lose the romantic feelings for her though before you do that! Find a new crush and take it.....slow!!
What answer 13.SarahBear said made me feel heart broken and now i'm worrying and can't sleep. I know this is long and I thank you for takin the time reading this and helping me.Need help about this situation about this girl? Long story but please help me please I can't stop worrying?
Honey, this isn't the first girl that will break your heart. She sounds like she has a flirtatious personality and maybe that's why her and her boyfriend fight. I do think you should just leave it alone. The more distant you are, the more she will be attracted because she is used to your attention. If she doesn't make any effort thern obviously you know the answer. She also didn't say that she liked you when you told her boss and co-worker. Be careful! You sound like a sweet guy and don't be fooled by a pretty face and a flirty personality. Believe it or not but only time can heal your broken heart. By next week you won't feel as ';sad'; about this. Just focus your energy on yourself. There are lots of girls that you will meet and will be even prettier, more caring and sweet...I promise!Need help about this situation about this girl? Long story but please help me please I can't stop worrying?
U should go out wit her take her from her man!!!!!!!!!!
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so i just ask her out and since then we both have been really close. we aren't together, but she does consider me as her second, cuz her man doesn't give her the attention that she wants.
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i'm amazed the folks at goldman sachs have this much free time on their hands
I did not read the novel. Only the first sentences. lol. You are stupid, not dumb. Just go see her. You ask everyone for an opinion like you want us to reassure you you dumb jerk. If you want something go after it. Don't ask the ignorant people here.
Do what you feel is right. Go with your gut feeling. But don't be too strong on what you say to her. To me I think this girl is so confuse right now. I think she was in love with her boyfriend but now she see's u has a better choice and that scares her I think. And I think you should stop all of these games and talk to her. Don't give her anymore notes. She needs to hear what you have to say from you mouth and not a note. Go on and tell her what you feel is right.
And stop worrying everything happens for a reason. Gets some sleep :)
You've got a super LONG question so I didn't read everything.
This girl sounds like a best friend I had in college and I have to tell you that even though she's sweet, she's got a lot of baggage that you as a teenager are not equipped to handle no matter how sweet or how nurturing you want to be to her.
My best friend was very sweet, very pretty and super nice to everyone. However, she let herself be treated by crap by her boyfriend but she was stupefied by him that she couldn't leave. It was like she was glued to him and only him.
You can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped or be found.
It's nice that you've found a girl with the attributes and qualities that you look for, but you're not a mender, that shouldn't be your role in a relationship. Because if you are in a relationship like that, and she gets better, she'll move on because she doesn't need you anymore. I think she's trying to keep herself happy by knowing she's known you but not using you to make herself feel better.
She keeps herself with her boyfriend because she feels comfortable being miserable with him.
Do you understand?
She would rather feel miserable and blame herself than use you to make herself feel happy, it's like she feels she doesn't deserve better.
Just let her go and let her discover herself. One day she'll find what she truly needs and maybe your letters will help bring her back to you if it's meant to be.
God bless.
Boy you sound like the sweetest guy...and this gal knows it. Obviously she is taken and maybe she's afraid of what would happen if she gets caught by her bf. Maybe he is controlling and the outcome could be worse if she tried to leave him...
She could be testing you ---but maybe not. n
OH my god that is so sweet well the only thing i can tell you is do what your heart tells you to and do it save her tell her how you feel in your own words out of your mouth and maybe she will open up her pretty blue eyes and see who you really are to me i think its better to tell what you feel about them in person its more brave and you get that feeling like scared but in a good way it feels good and even though you know that they now how you really feel deep down inside your heart i go for it if i was in your shoes
For crying out loud way too much info!
You need to stop analysing and getting caught up in that internal dialogue %26amp; argueing with yourself and get on with life!
Ask the girl out! perhaps after you tell her you will when she dumps the psychopath.
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