Typical bisexual crush, needs advice situation =/?

Hey,

This might take a while to ask but yeah.

It all started about three years ago when I became friends with this guy. We got along great and we hung out all the time and were best friends for a year. I remember one time looking at him and thinking how cute he was but I quickly stopped myself because I (thought I) was straight. The next year we were still great friends and then something happened. We were watching a movie together when he started to make a move on me. He uh... kinda gave me a bl0wjob and then ran off. We talked later and it was obvious he didn't want to talk about it, so we didn't and we were still best friends. A while later he started acting really weird, aggressive and all. This ended with him beating the crap out of me. (bummer) We ignored each other for a whole year until we sort of struck up a conversation through a mutual friend. So once again we became best friends etc. This is until I became friends with one of his ex-girlfriends. He starts to become jealous, telling me all this crap about her and telling her all this crap about me. So then I tried reasoning with him, I started saying, ';Man, you're just pissed because I'm friends with your ex-'; when the expression on his face turns to sheer rage, so I got the hell out of the situation and we haven't talked since. That was last year and the thing is, for the entire time I've liked him. Recently I've been trying to tell him how I feel but its been hard to work up the courage. And then a few weeks ago I find out he has a boyfriend. So now I REALLY need advice on what to do. I mean, I REALLY like him but he's got a boyfriend AND we haven't talked for a year. What should I do?Typical bisexual crush, needs advice situation =/?
I know that you're going through a difficult time right now. But I really think you need to find a way to get your mind off of him and move on with your life. I do not think that this guy is emotionally healthy and can offer you an emotionally healthy relationship. The fact that he beat the crap out of you suggests to me that he has not dealt with his sexuality or identity and has serious anger management issues to sort out. I really think that you're better off. I know that this is not easy to hear but I think that in time you'd be able to witness the beauty of a healthy, loving relationship.



Sometimes when we love people or even just like them, we tend to either be blinded or put up with more than we need to or that is good for us to put u with. I was in love with someone recently who didn't seem to reciprocate the love I had for her. And I kept making excuses and put up with a lot in hope that things would sort themselves out. Then I met someone who was totally affectionate and I realised just how much I was missing/needing affection (verbally and physically) with the person I was in love with. But even though I wasn't getting a lot of warmth from the person I was in love with, I didn't realise how much more I could experience.



You can try catching up on something else that you're passionate about to get your mind off him. It seems that you've been through a lot and I think that you deserve more.



Wishing you the best!Typical bisexual crush, needs advice situation =/?
Time to let go and move on. Somethings just don't work out the way you want. Don't waste any more time on a relationship that isn't going in the right direction. My best to you.
why don't you just get together, in public, (ie at a coffee shop, not a bar) in case he freaks out, and have a heart to heart talk? just tell him if he becomes single, you'd be interested in pursuing your friendship, but at a more intimate level. be careful, though. if he beat you up, you don't need to be a victim of domestic violence....