PLEASE help me get this sorted out?!?

Suppose you're best friends with this guy who's somewhat bothered by other people pairing the both of you up. You don't care a **** what any one else says, and under your influence, the guy finds he doesn't care either. For a short time, that is.

He starts to avoid you. Talks to everyone else except you. It's always YOU who has to start the conversation with him, and sometimes it's maddening. He's been you best friend for so long, and you really REALLY care about him. He's always had this problem, but never to this extent. And you, you're the kind who cares for people but don't care whether they return your care. But for some strange reason, him doing this bothers you constantly. I mean so much that your mind seems to be occupied by almost nothing else. You're starting to question yourself now; why is this affecting you so? Have you actually developed on crush on your best buddy without realizing it? Seems like it. You're 90% sure you are crushing on him, and you're sure you can keep no secrets and no lies from him. So the second you realize your feelings for him, you'll tell him. You are so not shy about it, you're just telling the truth. There is the element of doubt left - what if you were wrong about assuming you like him and end up possibly ruining your relationship?

And everything's just building up and you're so confused about yourself and everything happening and it's all just so God damned complicated that you want out, you wanna forget everything and just get your peace of mind back..... You just wanna find out whether you really like him or not and you dunno how, and you dunno if it's right or wrong, whether it'll all turn out okay afterwards (meaning you'll be able to stop fretting and freak out like your usual self).

What would you do???

HELP, people!PLEASE help me get this sorted out?!?
I think you're just starting to walk in unfamiliar territory. Sorry that it's so complicated, but this is how affairs of the heart are, at least at first. You'll soon learn how to identify how you feel about any given person and whether it's a crush, simple friendship or whatever. The more used to the feeling you get, the better you can deal with it.



In addition, there's no harm in wanting a friend to return your affection - why shouldn't you expect to be cared for as much as you care?



What would I do? I'd take some time out, with nobody to bother me, perhaps for a day, perhaps for just an afternoon, and I'd think through what I wanted with this guy. I'd think about whether I wanted a friend and a partner all rolled into one, whether I wanted to be (at least partially) at the beck and call of another person, whether there was anybody else I wanted as a partner (and therefore who would be the best option), and so on.



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i agree with ';haley's'; answer also. However, I also think you have nothing too lose. It seems like you have to initiate everything with this friend of yours anyways, so what is so wrong with asking him where he stands as far as a friendship/relationship is concerned.

Instead of having it get all muttled up in your head, just come out with it. I know you don't want to lose a friend over this, but there is only a couple of ways to get your peace of mind back. Either face the issue or ignore it all together. If you know that you are going to get a one way ticket to the blues, then what do you have to lose?